At this stage I am far more worried about getting her to stand still, and behave, rather than her opinion of it, which is all the pulling faces and ears back is.
To correct her, depends, I would have to be there, and know her better, intensity of my response depends on the sensitivity of the horse, which is why I am reluctant once again to coach online and yet again direct you to real life people who can help you in the NOW, not hours later when it is too late. Depending on the mare my correction could be a very hard smack on the chest, a growl, a push, a hard jerk of the lead rope, or possibly a stroke or a scratch,or a combination...
As to the ice, yes, each and every one of my horses learns that of there is ice, slick mud, bad going, walking across logs, I am going to give you as much space and rope as you need and you will pick your way across. There are times when I want to control every foot fall, and times when they need to think for themselves.
Speaking of a real life mentor, (this just struck me this morning) I actually did have one at the old barn - the barn helper there. Unfortunately, she wasnt a very good person to learn from, she gave me a lot of incorrect info and we had different opinions on many things.
She said my mare wasnt lame, when she was.
She said to just ride my mare (without any supervision) because Ive had lessons.
She was just a very bad person to learn from.
Hate to say it but smacking my mare on the neck doesnt phase her one bit.
Why do you think her ears are going back? So when shes giving me the side eye, shes pulling faces at me? I never knew that. I DID INQUIRE about this specific behaviour awhile back on here but someone mentioned their horse does it with them from time to time and its not a bad disrespectful behaviour so I put it off. Is that seen as being disrepectful?
Remember though, shes not putting her ears back or pulling faces at me when Im asking her to stand quietly. Those few secondds I was backing her up. I will note and must stress that she NEVER EVER pulls faces or pulls her ears back at me. Last week she pinned her ears when i was brushing her sore spot and she was telling me she didnt like it. But she also did the exact same thing to the chiro as well.
The only time she will ever pull faces like that to me is when correcting her. She doesnt do it all the time. I think its more of a correcting thing than a backing up thing because if I just tell her to back by giving like pressure on the lead or on her chest, she will never EVER give me the side eye.