This is what my trainer said to do. Its a long one sorry.
Yes Sarah, she said first and fore most, because I have switched trainers so much and learned from so many different backgrounds, that I have hindered my learning because Im constantly relearning stuff and its confusing my mare. Now its time to buckle down and focus on earning her respect for good.
I originally told her my goal is to have her respect by Christmas, she said if I do every adjustment she said every time I see her, everytime I handle her, there should be no excuse as to why I cant have her respect me by 2 weeks from now.
So there you have it, my goal is to have her respect within 2 weeks from now. Halloween.
She does believe that my mare is trying her best and is acting out of frustration and confusion more than anything. She says its not my fault because I wasnt able to pin point exactly what was instructed to me incorrectly from past trainers and what was not taught to me.
My trainer knows that my mare tests me everyday, she said its up to me get my timing right and correct her. She said if I cant correct her within 2 secs of her bad action, dont bother. Do it next time.
She asked why I like to use such a long lead (15ft) and I told her and she said I need to go back to my 8ft leads, mainly because I dont need this much length and if I have to lunge her, 8ft should be long enough and 15ft is probably not the best length for when lunging a horse because I shouldnt need to swing that much rope around.
She suggested me a book to read, Im getting the name off her again. Wasnt able to write it down.
She said the sooner I can be more consistent, the quicker she will respect me and she will be much better behaved when handling her. She also does believe that (BO as well) that what she needs right now is to be in a herd. She feels the sooner she is put in a herd, the better she will be. She will be put in a herd anyday now, what im expecting to be sometime next week. Im excited, Ive been wanting this so bad for her for so long! She will be better in a herd because she will be able to make friends and be a horse.
So she said she wants to see me handle her so we went outside.
I told her what happened on Thurs night and she said that I should not lunge her to correct her but in my case I didnt know. But now I know not to lunge her like that again when correcting her, if ever at all.
What she wants me to do is eat up all the slack in the lead, circle her in two tight circles away from me, while putting mild pressure on the lead away from me. If she tries to block me or resist, up my pressure on the lead. But she said essentially if I make myself big, big chest, shoulders up, head up, look to where you are going, I should be able to drive her from mostly my body language alone.]
She said to NEVER EVER turn to my side when leading. Always away from me. Is this true? How come no trainer or anyone has ever mentioned this to me? She said, always lead to her side because if I lead her into my side, its telling her that she has the power and is moving me even though shes on a lead. She said to make up for this switch sides more as far as which side im leading her on. She said because Ive been always letting her lead into my side, it told her that she can lead me and is confused.
Now, my mare has this really bad habit (and perhaps it came from me turning her into my side), she will always try to circle around me. We can be standing still and she will just start to circle me. Trainer said to NEVER do this because its telling her that she has more power than me by circling me. She said she never lets any horse circle her and within 2 secs, to do 2 tight Circles in opposite direction by eating up slack in lead and putting lead pressure in that direction. If she fights and tries to block me keep going, put more pressure on lead. Keep head and shoulders up, and drive her with body language.
When turning into her direction, try slowing my pace before going into the turn.
When she isnt being corrected, and I want to turn to her side, drive with body language (shoulders and head) and firm walk. my trainer showed me this and she can pretty much lead her away from her with no pressure on the lead. She said that there should be absolutely zero pressure in the lead when leading away from you and the lead should be free. Whats driving her over is her body language.
She said the only reason why you are putting pressure on the lead (away from you) when correcting her and doing 2 tight circles (with minimal forward movement) is because you are doing much tighter circles and you can driving her head and neck away from you.
Use the "And" que all the time, "and woah"..."and walk", use on lungeline as well. She does it and says it just lets them know that theyre about to be sent a que.
Dont woah with her so abruptly. Be a lot softer in my body language and with my feet.
When leading, keep head and eyes looking ahead but monitor where he head is and if shes falling behind me, swing outside arm behind me to get her to keep pace up with me. She doesnt want me to hit her with the lead, just swing my arm behind me and she sees it. We tried it a bunch today and she reacted. Sometimes it took a few times but she responded.
Trainer basically wants me to be a lot softer and gentlier when giving her my first que. She said im too rough and because my mare is really sensitive, it doesnt take a lot to get her to respond.
If she rears, wait for her feet to come back to the ground, then circle her in two tight circles. She said this is what she would have done on Thurs night. And she would have ended it after the 2nd circle, no lunging. She said anything more than 2 circles is pointless as it falls outside that correction window and it wont send them any message except them wondering why theyre doing it. 2 circles thats it, no matter the severity of the bad act from my mare.
No sniffing the ground or anything allowed when shes on a lead. Just put very lite pressure on the lead to get her back up or back to where she was.
If we are standing, she is not allowed to change which side she stands to me. Correct by bringing her back to where she was with light pressure on the lead.
Im still typing up all these adjustments in my checklist, but I have to say that (even though I worked on it with my trainer so she could assess and critique), I am still a bit nervous when leading her AWAY from me because she will still and always will try to block me like what you saw in my video a couple nights ago at the 4min mark!!!!
Trainer got me to lead my mare to exactly where it happened and got me to show her what she would do. She saw it, and she said because of the spot where I was leading her, my mare was a bit uncomfortable with the bushes on my left (hence why she was trying to get ahead of me) so she said that I need to anticipate it ahead of time so that as we get near these bushes, I pick up my pace so that shes not able to get ahead of me. She said drive with shoulders and body language, eat up all the slack on the lead and apply pressure on the lead AWAY from me so that I steer her AWAY from me. She said that as much as my mare wants to resist, I need to steer her away from me. If she tries to speed up and block me and gets aggressive, I need to apply more and more and more and more pressure on the lead away from me.
She said when I apply pressure on the lead away from me or even back (to get her to slow down), do a couple quick nudges on the lead, then release. Only apply constant pressure on the lead if i need to apply heavy pressure.
Now she said, IF she does manage to get ahead of me by even a step, immediately correct her by doing 2 tight circles AWAY from me with pressure on the lead AWAY from me.
Listen, I really dont want to get in a fighting match with my mare, I really dont. It frustrates her for no reason (when its easily avoidable) and its bad for my safety. 950lbs vs 150lbs, Im outmatched. I just want to be able to lead her AWAY from me safely with her NOT blocking me! And considering now that Im not allowed to lead her INTO me and only AWAY from me, it makes this challenge that much bigger because I will be going into her direction all the time, every single time.
Last edited by Hoofpic; 10-17-2015 at 08:57 PM.