Originally Posted by DraftyAiresMum View Post
Doing this will defeat the purpose of going to just hang out with her.
Also, you get the behavior you expect. If you go out there expecting her to misbehave and to need to use the whip, it will happen. Go out there expecting just to sit and take it easy. I bet you'll be pleasantly surprised with the results.
I will have to disagree. There is a big difference between having a whip in your possession because you definitely think she's coming after you, and having a whip in your possession just to be prepared.
It happens on the ground too.
I always think of the latter. Even if my horse is going well under saddle or doing well being lead, I try and have a whip (at previous barns, this barn I just recently re-bought a whip) nearby so that I can use it.
I do agree that intent is everything and thinking negatively brings upon negative experiences.
One of many experiences with this, is when I realized I forgot to put my helmet on before I got on my horse. My fellow boarder didn't notice either, and when I did and said it outloud, my horse suddenly violently spooked and even though I didn't fall off, I invited him to spook because for a split second I was worried instead of my usual calm self.
Keep it close, OP, but enjoy your horse. Don't fixate on the whip.