IGNORE THE PREVIOUS POST, THIS ONE IS THE ONE TO READ.
Wanted to post this here, its a valuable piece of information from ENH817 that i replied to.
You have to realuze that anyone can call themselves a horse trainer or ariding instructor. They just have to know a little bit more than their clientele or atleast be able to BS enough to make people think they do. 99% of the 'trainers' out there really don't know much.
Im seeing this now. Before when I first started, I was just so eager to learn and be happy that the person was willing to teach me to begin with. But now I have higher standards because im able to pick out tendencies trainers have, some things to look for, so im more specific and picky now (which is good!). I also have a lot more knowledge today in all areas of NH than I did 5 months ago (saying this is a huge understatement, cause the gains ive made over the past 5 months have been GIGANTIC!) so now when Im given advice from someone, I am much more capable in determining whether the info theyre spouting out is valid or debatable and more of an opinion than a true fact.
5 months ago (before I got my mare), I went under the wings of the barn helper at the old barn. I was so grateful for having the oppurtunity to be around horses again. Just going back a bit further, a month prior I was at another huge barn (1 hour drive from home) where I was mucking stalls for 8 hours every Sat and every Sun in exchange for riding lessons from the barn manager. I was there 7am every Sat and Sun morning to start with morning feed and stayed til well past 5pm sometimes 6pm. I basically helped with everything in their daily barn operation. Note at this time, I had not seen or paid a trainer in my life.
Well this didnt turn out well because the BM and her helpers were NOT good people to learn from. They were worse than the old barn helper. They really had no desire to teach me at all and were just using me. I didnt see it at the time but when I moved on I did. I was only there for 6 weeks because turned out they didnt have an insurance policy in place if I were to ever get injured on their property. I was absolutely crushed when I was told I couldnt go back because I just wanted to be around horses in my free time. But at this same time I had many people online constantly telling me that I should not be mucking stalls for riding lessons as it was to no benefit for me. I need to pay a trainer and go from there and focus on NH, not riding.
I went the next 4-5 weeks absolutely missing being at the barn and being around horses. This is when I started seeking out trainers and paid to learn horsemanship. I took 1-2 lessons a week from trainers for a good 6 weeks on NH, no riding. As I was taking lessons, it was great, but I still missed being at the barn so I put up ads online displaying my true love for horses and asking for an oppurtunity to learn from someone in exchange for my helping hand in barn operation.
This is when the barn helper at the old barn where I boarded at reached out to me. She offered me the chance to work with her 7 ponies. 7 ponies that she didnt have time to take care of but was open to having me do it in exchange for her teaching me.
Because of this I immediately looked to her for everything, and as if she was a master in the horse world. Obviously she was a very bad person to learn from. I still learned a lot from her but she gave me more incorrect advice than correct advice.
If say I didnt have my mare today and having gone through the experiences i have over the 5 months, I definitely would NOT have accepted the oppurtunity to learn from her today. No chance. Because I have higher standards now and much more knowledge.. As time goes on and I learn more, I have no doubt this will only keep increasing. The past 5 months have been some of the best and most exciting times of my life, learning from all sorts of different people - trainers, boarders, people on forums, farriers, etc. But its the real life hands on experience by going out every single day to apply what I learned is what really helped me take off.
This is why I dont think its crazy at all that Ive gone to see my mare every single day (but one) since i got her.
If anything it shows people just how dedicated and commited i am to learning. Thats the ONE thing that all the trainers Ive worked with have said to me. My attitude and drive to learn was what made it so motivating for them to teach me.
People at the old barn knew this, the trainer there knew it...she even commented to other boarders on my attitude and will to learn and that to see someone with my kind of drive to learn was not a very common thing. They all saw my raw passion for horses, every single one of the boarders. The barn helper (even though I left on bad terms and we will never talk again), kept telling me time and time again how she was so grateful to have me there and if i ever left, I would be sorely missed. That I was such a pleasure to work with, teach and know as a person. She really did open up to me as time went on and had a lot of respect for me. Well personally, (even though i havent been in contact with anyone there since i left), I do truly believe I am sorely missed because I did so much for that barn, I busted my *** every single time I was there, it was the little things here and there that I did and paid attention to (stuff they wouldnt even notice) all came from my love for horses. When I left if anything, it would have send her and the BO a serious wake up call to smarten up and run the place like how it should be run. Everyday I fed, gave water and checked up on every horse on that property as if they were my own. Sorry, need to stop talking about it here, just flashing back is getting me a bit emotional. Had some real great memories at that place and some really special horses were there.