This isn't fair. She doesn't need to find a different way to ask. You need to understand what she is asking.
I started a thread awhile ago, and it's actually a pretty funny thread (to me). But I was convinced my mare was being disrespectful by slowly turning her butt to me and everyone here suggested she wanted a good butt scratch. So I tried it, and low and behold- she wanted a butt scratch! She gets one every day, and she asks for it the same way every day. BUT, she doesn't get to demand it. There's an art, so to speak, to understanding horse language.
And for the record, without being there and actually seeing how your horse was acting, I don't know if she wanted a butt scratch or not, but if she was...
If she was asking for a scratch then i feel really bad now.
The reason why Im so skeptical on what her intentions were is because she used to turn her butt to me everyday, sometimes numerous times a day when I first got her. Not only me but others as well. The very first time this happened was the second day I had her. Went to pet her while she was eating supper - (obviously didnt know at the time but I learned quickly) that horses generally do NOT like to be bothered or accompanied when theyre eating hay. I thought, ok, maybe it was just this one time that she didnt want my company. Tried it again later, same thing, turned her butt to me and she was a bit more aggresive in swinging that HQ. Ever since this second time I have never gone up to her when she eats hay. She was clearly telling me to go away.
So now when she does it, can you blame me for not being able to tell what shes telling me? If she wanted scratches, she wouldnt be walking away after she turns her butt to me for 2-3 secs. SHe would stand there planted and most likely look back to see if im going to scratch her or not. But she turned her butt and walked off so that tells me she was telling me to go away.
Its too bad i didnt get this on tape.
Honestly, I think one of these days (perhaps in the next day or two), I should setup my tripod just outside her paddock and you can see how she is when i just hang out in her paddock. This would be a good idea cause it will give you guys a much better idea of what im going on about. Perhaps she wont be turning her butt to me then, but at least you can have a general idea how she is when im in her paddock.
Hoof pic, may I ask.... Have you ever trained any animal before?
I ask because you seem to believe this animal is "set it and forget it", like a machine.
She is a HORSE, an animal with a brain the size of a walnut. She does not have the same language as you. You ARE going to be saying things to her, OVER and OVER, forever. Her mind is like a 4 year old child, and will never be more than that.
Warning...this is going to come across as sexist.....
Women (generally)find horses easier because we are programmed by nature to pick up on the smaller signals, in order to help read when our children need things, like food, comfort, etc. plus, some of us have been through human 4 year olds, and maybe better understand the phase.
Plenty of men find their way, of course, and. I am not trying to discourage you, AT ALL, but it is just a little more difficult, as you are finding out...
Dont worry, i dont find your comments sexist at all, I agree that women are programmed better than men to pick up stuff like this.
I know shes not going to act the same way every day and she will have her off days and her mood swings. But turning the butt is perhaps just as bad as biting (if her intention was to be cheeky with me). I have no doubt in my mind that she was just toying with me. Be cheeky when I go up to her and give her attention, but when I start heading for the gate, she immediately follows me.