Originally Posted by DraftyAiresMum View Post
That first day, when you walked up to scratch her and she turned her butt to you, so you backed off. You just showed her that it was okay for her to tell you to get out of your space. Not only did you obey her, you did so with alacrity. In her mind, she made the connection that if she points her butt toward you, you'll go away. That's probably why it took so long to get her to stop doing it all the time.
You should be able to go up to her at ANY time, eating or not. Eating is NO excuse for being rude.
Well when I first got her, I didnt know how to handle butt turning. I was also in the phase of (since just getting her) babying her and treating her like if she was a puppy dog. But this changed quick once my trainer told me I better stiffen up my body language with her and start being assertive with her so I can keep her in line.
Remember, she has the attention span of a 2-3yo child right now. She could very well have been asking for scratches, but since you didn't oblige, she lost interest quickly and wandered off.
. My best friend's mare LOVES to have her withers scratched. She'll come up and ask politely (aligning her withers/shoulders with you), but if you don't engage her right away, she'll lose interest and walk away. She won't look at you to "tell" you what she wants. She'll just stand there. Mind you, she's 12, so her attention span is a good deal longer and more focused than a 4yos would be. My gelding, who is 6, loves to have his chest scratched. He'll walk up and stand very close to you with his chest in front of your hand. If you start scratching, great. If not, he'll stay there for a couple of seconds, realize that you're not going to oblige, so then he'll walk away.
Ok interesting, now I know.
Point is, you are assuming
she was being a brat and telling you to go away. We all know what happens when we assume, right?
Cant help but go by past experiences with her. Unintentional of course.
I would ask your BO to interact with her. Watch him and see what he does. See if she tries the same shenanigans with him. If she does, watch what his responses are. Your BO sounds a lot like my old BO, just without the anger and ******* nature. Good, quiet, steady cowboy who knows how to handle horses. There's A LOT you can learn from someone like that.
Well BO generally doesnt handle horses because hes handicap unless he really has to. He will get near them but he cant lead a horse because he has a prostetic leg. He has his ways to chase horses off, get them out of his space, etc but will never lead a horse.
But I do watch and observe him work with other horses and pick up alot. My mare will often try to get in his space because she sees that he is old and smaller than her, but he gets her to listen easily.