What I mean by "you in her space" is that when you walk up to a loose horse, you are walking into their space. When they walk up to you, and you allow the approach, they are coming into yours. It's not "in her space" in a bad way it's just differentiating you going up to her or her coming up to you. Either way, you have mutually allowed the other in your personal space.
i see what you mean now.
When I say "over stayed your welcome" means she's had enough and wants to leave. When a horse is unhaltered, then it's really their decision not yours.
Oh ok, so when she walks by now and if she happens to brush me, I wont do or say anything for now on.
But you still believe that by her brushing me with her barrel is a compliment cause its a gesture of her grooming me like she would with another horse?
What I saw on the video was just a brush, not a bump. Semantics again, to me she brushed past you in a not disrespectful way. If she bumped you, I would expect you to have been knocked back a little or a lot depending on the force.
Yes she brushed me but there have been times where she would bump me. Same logic applies in that case?
No, I would not, because when she's on the lead it's up to ME to tell her where to go, how far and how fast. When I'm working with a horse and introducing new things, I have them haltered and on a lead line or lunge line. Every new thing is scary and their first instinct is to leave. I frequently say, "Nope, you're not allowed to leave. You can stand and look and sniff, but you have to stay with me." We're working then, not "in the horse's living room" just grooming and playing.
I'm not quite that strict. If your horse has a history of being a mean biter, then I'd probably not allow it either because that kind of horse gets an inch and wants to take an ell. A horse that gives a quick sniff, kind of to make sure it's really you, doesn't bother me. A horse that wants to "sniff search" me, like for treats, is not allowed to do that.
Trainer does it this way because she sees it as when a horse is being led, its work time for them. They cant look around, sniff, because they need to pay attention to you and they can do that stuff when they are not being led.
Yes and No. Yes if you let them just groom you back where ever and whenever they please. No if you give them the flat of your palm with all fingers and thumb close together and straight, they just get the flat of your palm. If they only have your flat palm, you may feel teeth at first because they use teeth on each other. If you take your hand away and say, "No Teeth", then they get it after awhile and just use the upper lip. It's up to you if you want to allow it or not.
Ok so in my case with her brushing me, do you see that as her grooming me? and on her terms?