i see what you mean now.
Oh ok, so when she walks by now and if she happens to brush me, I wont do or say anything for now on.
But you still believe that by her brushing me with her barrel is a compliment cause its a gesture of her grooming me like she would with another horse?
Yes she brushed me but there have been times where she would bump me. Same logic applies in that case?
Ok so in my case with her brushing me, do you see that as her grooming me? and on her terms?
Trainer does it this way because she sees it as when a horse is being led, its work time for them. They cant look around, sniff, because they need to pay attention to you and they can do that stuff when they are not being led.
Horses just aren't so black and white. I can tell you're a very linear thinker and horses are really more intuitive, so you're going to really have to work on not being so "if X ....then go to Z" in your thinking.
In this ONE case, I didn't see a reason to correct her. To avoid this happening in future, then you need to start practicing the leaving before she does and give her a pat and walk away before she can leave. By doing this you remain in control of the situation and you avoid having her brush/bump you as she leaves. It kind of goes, scritch scritch scritch (oh she's looking at her buddies over there, she'll start to walk away soon), nice little pat on the shoulder or rump or where ever and "Good girl, gotta go now, see you later." as you're walking away from her. She doesn't get the opportunity to rub, brush, bump against you.
In this one case, grooming is what had been going on and they rub against each other all the time when doing that, so ...... I'm inclined to give her the benefit of the doubt this time. It's up to you to make sure it doesn't become a habit, because like anything else you allow it can get carried away and go over the top of what's allowable and what's not.
I see & appreciate your trainer's thought process in this case, about the sniffing. I'm not that strict because I'm not that concerned about where their attention is, I know how to focus them and get and keep their attention when I want to. I understand she's trying to teach you good, safe habits, and that's a good one. If that's how she works, then go with it, it's not going to hurt anything.