Originally Posted by Dreamcatcher Arabians View Post
Horses just aren't so black and white. I can tell you're a very linear thinker and horses are really more intuitive, so you're going to really have to work on not being so "if X ....then go to Z" in your thinking.
Im in the process of not thinking so systematically.
In this ONE case, I didn't see a reason to correct her. To avoid this happening in future, then you need to start practicing the leaving before she does and give her a pat and walk away before she can leave. By doing this you remain in control of the situation and you avoid having her brush/bump you as she leaves. It kind of goes, scritch scritch scritch (oh she's looking at her buddies over there, she'll start to walk away soon), nice little pat on the shoulder or rump or where ever and "Good girl, gotta go now, see you later." as you're walking away from her. She doesn't get the opportunity to rub, brush, bump against you.
Thanks, good example. I started doing this tonight, even though tonight I didnt give her a whole lot of attention cause she was busy eating so I just had a seat near her and let her come to me as she please.
In this one case, grooming is what had been going on and they rub against each other all the time when doing that, so ...... I'm inclined to give her the benefit of the doubt this time. It's up to you to make sure it doesn't become a habit, because like anything else you allow it can get carried away and go over the top of what's allowable and what's not.
See I knew it, and this is why Ive always been told NEVER allow any horse to groom you back as if you are a horse.
I remember at the old barn one boarder would always want to show me, her scratching her horse, then her horse will start scratching her back on her shoulder. Thats a huge safety risk and a big no no.
I see & appreciate your trainer's thought process in this case, about the sniffing. I'm not that strict because I'm not that concerned about where their attention is, I know how to focus them and get and keep their attention when I want to. I understand she's trying to teach you good, safe habits, and that's a good one. If that's how she works, then go with it, it's not going to hurt anything.