At the new barn, I notice and pick up on how other boarders are with their horses.
I kept having this one boarder (lady in her 50s) who just got a mare and brought her there last month (but is leaving soon to another place) to have my trainer ride her. (It seems all she cares about is riding. Every time she sees me, she always asks me "so are you riding your horse today?" Even though ive told her a billion times already that my trainer is riding her and training her some more, I am not riding her any time soon" I remember the first time I told her this, all she kept saying was "I would just ride her"....and I would be like "no shes not finished and i want to have her finished right." She will be like "so...just get on her, thats what I did with my mare"...uhhhhh.
And yes this is what she's done to her mare. She has as little riding experience as I do, her mare is 12 but was JUST broken in like last month, not near being finished yet and yet shes already riding her on her own? lol. See the difference between her and I?
Some people just dont care about the horse from the horses standpoint. She couldnt care less if she messes her up from her inexperience or her possibly not giving her good clear enough ques etc. Shes riding her because she wants to and is clearly putting her wants ahead of whats best for her horse. But I can tell you that her and I are much different in terms of where we stand with horses. All she cares about is riding and if she cant ride, she doesnt come out. Whereas me I care just about every thing in the horse world. Heck Im not even riding my mare and I still want to come out and see her every day.
Its like the barn helper at the old barn who would keep telling me "just ride her, you've taken riding lessons before,....youll be fine." Just mind your own business already. Not everyone is all about them when it comes to their horses. I actually see things much differently in the way that I see things from my horses point of view and I do what is best for her. Do these idiots not believe that I want to ride her? Of course i do! But im doing this for her and whats best for her, not me.
Even at the old barn, at least one person a day would come up to me "so hows your mare doing?"...."did you ride her yet?" or...."have you ridden her yet?" or....."gonna ride her today?" Uhhh so annoying.
Another boarder here has tried to give me advice before, I remember one time when I just moved here I was correcting my mare one time and she came up and kept asking me what I was doing. Its like GTFO, you're distracting me, cant you see im busy?! The last thing I need when correcting my mare is have someone try to butt in. Geez. And here when she goes out to catch her 2 year old colt, she will go up talk to him like if hes a baby and when she needs to correct him she yells at him at the top of her lungs. All she does is stand there and feed him a whole bag of treats. Everytime. She will come out when shes depressed. Uhh ya not the best idea to come see your horse when you are depressed.
Im so glad I have a bit higher standards than these boarders and take the time to read books, see their horses more and focus on things from a different standpoint than them. Now Im not expecting every boarder to have the same level of dedication and drive to learn like I do, but I just have a different mindset than alot of them.
Wow. That's all pretty ignorant.
You have your way of doing things and expect other to "butt out", yet you seem to be quite judgmental of their chosen ways. Everyone has their own methods that they chose to use and work for their horses. I'm not saying these boarders get good results 100% of the time, but neither do you. They are learning just like you are. Yelling at their own horses? Honestly, with one of my mares a good sharp yell is what she needs sometimes, works for her. My other mare doesn't work that way. That's fine.
How do you know that they don't have the dedication or drive to learn? They don't have high standards just because they don't do things your way? Lol.
I'd like to know why you think being sad or "depressed" (whether a person is truly depressed or simply upset, either way) is such an awful idea for being around a horse? I struggle deeply with depression and have for years, my horses honest to god help me through that and always have. I'm positive I am not the only one that struggles with depression and finds that horses help. =/