Ya know, women tend to want to help when they see (or think) someone needs it. They will usually step in and ask if one wants help or just jump in and help if they think it's needed. Men, on the other hand, DO NOT want help unless they ask for it. And they usually won't give help unless asked. Offering help to men can be seen by them as an insult as if you are telling them they are not capable.
I am guessing the boarders are mostly women and are, in their own way, offering help to Hoofpic. Or perhaps they are trying to have a conversation with him to get to know him (after all, they all have horses in common).
You may not think you feel defensive, but many of your posts come across that way, at least to me. I think the many people here offering to help you are awesome to keep on encouraging you. I hope you appreciate their efforts.