From what I have been reading in this and other threads is that you take things very literally. When people say things a certain way, you take them at face value and that may not be exactly what they mean.
Example: You're irritated because a couple of people think you shouldn't be in the pasture with your mare. (I think because you think they mean EVER). I said basically the same thing but indicated a time frame and you don't mind what I said.
"Your mare will be fine. She may get a few scuffs, bites and kick marks while she finds her place in the herd, but she'll ultimately find her position in the pecking order. The gelding bit her on the butt because she was being disrespectful. Horses have no truck with disrespect from new or underling members. They will correct them, quickly and severely, and rarely will the new horse need to be corrected more than twice by the same horse. I'd stay away for a few days and let her find her place."
Remember that you're now advanced enough that you're not asking for basic HOW TO instructions that are pretty universal for every horse and now you're getting into the "Ask 10 Horsepeople" category and you're going to get answers all over the map because people do what works for them, or how they've always done it or how they've been taught.
I grew up a horse crazy little girl who grew up in the barn with horses as babysitters. I did all the crazy Horse Crazy Little Girl things, from kissing them on their noses, to crying in their manes when my trainer's father was diagnosed with cancer, to dressing them up for holidays, to swimming in lakes with them, to riding in to town for a burger and parking my horse in a parking spot and ground tying him while I went inside (YES, my guardian angel is bald), to riding the pony into the pool at a posh New Year's Eve party, to riding a horse for the very first time in a Christmas Parade on a dare (I had NO idea if the horse was really broke or not. I got lucky, he was.) BTW that was in 2009.......YOU name it, I've probably tried it. I still expect to do a lot of those things because that's how I like my horses trained. So I pretty much do what I please with my horses and that's a lot of what I'll tell you to do to. Is right, wrong, indifferent? Well, I'm closer to 60 than I am 30, so something has worked ok all these years.
Others, who maybe haven't had the benefit of raising themselves with the aid of horses, perhaps started formal training later in life with an older trainer who was very strict, or is used to using horses for a real job, will have different opinions than me, that's ok too. My trainer that I use to start my youngsters, HATES that my young'uns all want to be your next BFF and in you pocket all the time. But he LOVES how easy it is to sell one of them. He's all about work and train and do the JOB and my horses are all about, "OK we'll do the job because we like to please you. But you HAVE to play with us and spend time with us when we're not working.".
There's pros and cons to everyone's way. You need to take everything in, then run it through your filters to see which ways resonate with you, try them and see what makes you and your horse happiest. There is definitely more than one way to skin a cat or train a horse.