Originally Posted by Dreamcatcher Arabians View Post
#1 - EVERYONE at one point or another attributes human emotions to their animals. We're human, it's what we do. What's important is to recognize that we're doing it and it really isn't something that the animals can relate to.
True and I am trying my best to do this.
So, in that case they're "right" and you're (and the rest of us too) "wrong". Remember what I said about the Right Fighters? What does that get them? Not a friggin' thing.
Well it proves that what they said to me was correct and I need to adjust to that if anything.
Now, you answer me to the best of your ability. What did/does it hurt that you are feeling sorry for her when she's getting "picked on" and "pushed out" of the herd?
Cause Ive seen bullies before in herds who bully and are mean and cruel to a new member - usually the youngest too. I just dont want that happening to my mare.
I felt sorry as all hell when Patti got mad at Goldie and ran her through the fence. Goldie is no jumper and she knocked the fence down pretty good on her way over, that can't have felt good. I felt sorrier still when she tried to come back over the fence and stuck a T-post through her leg and ended up in Horse ICU at the Vet School. And I was sorrier still when I got the multi thousand dollar vet bill. But I was very happy I didn't lose the horse and yes, I babied her a LOT while she was on the injured list.
Ouch. And this is why I want to avoid injuries like this.
Just because horses are tough on each other and they accept it as a fact of life, doesn't mean we can't feel a little sorry for them or imagine they aren't feeling a little sorry for themselves. What does it hurt?
Well I dont see anything wrong with feeling sorry for a horse. But again, we shouldnt cause thats human emotion!
If you start talking like she's your girlfriend with those kinds of feelings, well, then we have a problem and the law will have a problem with it too. But when you're just horse mad and bringing her carrots and such, and thinking she's glad to see you because you're you and not because you have carrots, it's not a problem.
Well tonight, the BO actually decided not to keep her in the herd for the night (he wants at least a couple more nights, I dont blame him), so they put her back in the area next to the herd.
I brought her carrots and didnt halter her, didnt do anything with her except give her carrots from the outside of the paddock. But after I was about to leave walking towards the gate and she wanted some attention so I went in for a couple minutes and said hi.
Even though she tried nipping my fingers a couple times after all the carrots were gone, I gave her a couple quick whacks on her muzzle right away. Her head went up right away and she looked at me with her head 45 degrees towards me. What does that mean?
I didnt halter her, didnt do anything with her. Saw her for maybe 5 or 6mins. The rest of the time I was sitting in the car and watching and observing the herd.
Trainer said that she thinks its a great idea that i now give her at least 2 days off a week, where I dont handle her and dont ask anything from her.