Now you are getting the idea....what it FEELS like to be the leader.
Yes but it doesnt mean 100% that my mare respects me and sees me as a leader right now. Thats why Im hoping that, (even though Im not riding her right now), that I can get her to respect me again and see me as the leader by just handling her.
No more lunging her
No more groundwork for the time being
Shes focused on what the trainer is teaching her through riding
A lot more days of her just being a horse with her new friends
Not haltering her everyday
Im confident this will have not only a positive infeunce on my mare but me as well because it gives me more time to read and reset my mind when I need to.
What I realized (and that I didnt know before) was that even though I want to see her everyday and love it, I need a break at least once a week just to reset my mind. When I saw her for 4 months straight, every single day, it tired me out, it fatigued my mind and I needed a reboot mentally. Like the person who mentioned it earlier, less but more positive and encouraging visits are far more beneficial for the horse than more but less positive visits. I have kept this quote in the back of my mind for the past month.
The fact is my mare needs alone time and time to just be a horse and now that shes in a herd Im giving her that. I could have and should have given her alone time before when she wasnt in a herd, but I didnt because I was her herd and I felt that by her seeing my everyday, it was beneficial for her.
Now, you BE SURE to EXPECT this behavior (in this exercise and ALL the exercises you EVER do with a horse), and you will get it.
What do you mean?
IMO, it is time to quit with the gushing, and move on....
I know but Im just so happy after today.
I have a feeling though, that its not me but the herd that has hade the positive effect on her. Afterall, I have only seen and handled her twice in the past 6 days.