One thing that catches my eye in this um is that you say that we on the internet are more updated and informed then your trainer... In my opinion it should be the other way round whether she asks or not. How often does she see you with your mare?
It wasnt so much about my trainer saying "ok" when asked how my mare was doing, but her stalling for a second in not knowing how to reply was what caught my attention. It showed that she was a bit out of the loop as to how my mare is doing (aside from how she is when she rides her). But realistically, when someone asks how a horse is doing, its how the horse is doing with the owner, not so much the trainer because at the end of the day, thats what it all comes down to - the relationship between the owner and the horse, not the trainer and the horse. The trainer is just a helping hand to get the horse to where the owner wants them to be.
Yes I agree it should be the other way around, that my trainer should be more informed and updated than you guys are (not that I dont enjoy learning from you guys, I really do get a lot from spending my time on here interacting with this great community). Would I be here today, having made these big positive steps with my mare over the past couple months if it wasnt for you guys? Not a chance. Not a chance. Thats how much Ive relied and learned from you guys.
The difference between this community and my trainer is that my trainer I get limited time with per week cause, 1) Her availability and 2) Obviously my budget, and seeing how my mares training is taking up a good chunk of it every month. I get information from here constantly throughout the day, everyday, I am constantly pulling advice, key pointers and learning from you guys. In the two months Ive been at the new barn, I have had 2 lessons with my trainer and my mare, TWO.
The first was lunging (within the first week arriving) and this was more of her getting to know my mare since it was her first time working with her, and the second was leading (a month ago). Dont get me wrong, she still taught me some really valuable stuff in those two lessons. She quickly pinpointed what I was taught incorrectly from past trainers and got me to drop those methods and instantly implement her methods. but for the most part, I took her advice, implemented them into my goal plan, meshed it with advice from you guys and worked on it on my own on a daily basis.
My trainer sees me with my mare maybe 3-5 times a week as she is not there everyday (shes there about 4-5 days a week) depending on her schedule. If she has other stuff going on, she may only be there 3-4 times a week.
And now that Im no longer going to the barn everyday, its less that we run into each other but not a huge drop off.
It used to be 4-6 times a week that she would see me but now 3-4 Id say.
I have nothing bad to say about her, she is fantastic learning from and Im blown away in terms of how well she communicates with me during our lessons. Its not so much about how well she communicates but her attitude. She is incredibly positive and i would say in some ways inspiring. The first time I got in the saddle again with her teaching, I felt at such ease because of how well she communicated with me.
I can understand her standpoint in solely focusing on me riding when im doing riding lessons with her. Why should she have to ask about my mare and how things are going between us when shes out in the field right? Though I was caught a bit off guard and more so surprised that she hasnt inquired since our last lesson with my mare a month ago.