Originally Posted by Dreamcatcher Arabians View Post
I think you and your trainer are being wise Hoofpic.
Yes Im confident I am doing the right thing for the both of us.
What really stands out for me is the fact my current trainer advised (at first when meeting her) that I ought to get riding her ASAP. But when we did our first lesson, she changed her mind and saw that I cant ride her right now, defeinitely not.
My past trainer said, "yes I feel you are ready to ride her."
And the trainer before that said that im possibly ready to ride her, but she needs more groundwork to fill holes in her past training. The thing is, with these two trainers, neither was never able to fully tell if i was ready to ride her or not because they never got to see me ride since I never once did a single riding lesson with them, only ground work. So what good is that right? If they cant see how I am in the saddle (just on any horse) then they are unable to assess my riding and whether or not Im ready.
And since neither of them rode my mare, it limits them even further because they dont know what my mare is like in the saddle. Whereas my trainer now FULLY knows because shes been riding her for the past 6 weeks, going into her 7th. So she has a full view and clear consise view on what my mare is like in the saddle and what she needs worked on, and she knows what im like in the saddle and what i need to work on to get myself up to my mares green level.
Obviously, your mare is not the horse anyone with any experience would have picked for you, but you picked her and you're doing what it takes to make the match work.
I was far more inexperienced when I got her just over 5 months ago. Yes I went a bit too fast when looking for a horse, and if I was to buy her today, yes I would have taken a much different approach (cause I know what to look for, do, etc before buying a horse), but theres no point in dwelling on the past. What done is done. If I didnt see something in her that really appeals to me, I wouldnt be keeping her.
I cant quite put my finger on it but like my past trainers have all said, they said they feel we can be a great fit over time and that she is a fun little horse. Though she is sensitive (shes a paint and paints are known to be sensitive), she is very bright and will try her hardest to please. I say this not only because the previous owner has told me but I have witnessed it this past summer.
It does make me wonder, if I was to buy her today (having gained the knowledge and experience that i have over the past 5 months), what a difference i would have made right from day 1, but like I said, what is done is done. Move on and keep progressing forward.
I think sometimes we get all wrapped up in Green + Green = Black & Blue and forget that sometimes there is a way around it if the person is willing to take the time and spend the money to get the training for both horse & rider.
My past two trainers were full aware of this, plus obviously my trainer now as well. My two past trainers had full faith in me being able to make this work. Why? My attitude and my drive to learn. It all stems from my pure passion for horses. Its amazing where passion will take you, there really is no limits. I experienced it first hand this past summer. Even though the old place wasnt a long term solution and I left on bad terms, I learned and gain some very valuable things and experiences from there that I will never forget.
I have a little situation here that's going to test me in the next few weeks. My barn helper is a real good hand with the horses on the ground and she's good with the real experienced and broke horses. She is not nearly assertive enough with a mare who likes to get away with things. She's what I call freight and not a driver and because of that my Shining Spark mare, who is green as grass and can be expected to try things, has learned to buck. Barn Gal is not savvy enough to see/feel when she's getting ready to go bronc on her. So, she's not riding her anymore and I have to ride out the bucks and persuade her it's not in her (the mare's) best interest to buck like that. Not riding her is not an option, if she's not pregnant she's got to be rideable by any one that wants to. Bucking is one of 2 things that will get her sent off real quick. I didn't spend the amount I spent on her to have to sell her for a loss at auction, so that means I have to ride her out. I'm almost 60 years old and that's why I have barn help, to ride my green horses. Obviously this gal, while willing, is not able and would get herself hurt. Watching the mistakes she (who actually is a pretty darn good rider, just not terribly pro-active) makes is one of the reasons why I keep telling you to take things slow, be assertive, stick with a good trainer, etc etc etc. If you try to ride your mare without enough experience, for both of you, you could end up in a real unhappy situation or worse, hurt.
Exactly. And like my past trainer said, my mare is only 4.5 yrs old, she has a lot of time in her life ahead. There is no rush to ride her. Yes of course I want it to happen sooner than later and Im oh so curious to see and experience the doors that open up once I do, but Im doing this all for her. I dont want to mess her up. It takes 3,4, 5 times the amount of time and effort to reteach horses from past mistakes than if you were to just be more patient with the horse, allow them more time and have them trained right.