Originally Posted by Dreamcatcher Arabians View Post
Well, yes, it is. It isn't necessarily how I was thinking of it, but on further thought, yes it is. Living in the now is just experiencing the moment and not necessarily being totally goal driven and missing what's going on around you.
Ok good. Now I know exactly what you mean. If I did this every time I saw her, I think it would be beneficial eh? Someone mentioned my mare will act differently, in what way? Is this really calming and soothing for horses?
A perfect example of someone NOT living in the now is the driven CEO who is so busy making a good life for his family that he never sees them. He misses out on his kids birthdays, their milestones, their recitals, their growing years. And one day, he wakes up and realizes, he never got to know them at all.
So what we're saying is, don't be so driven to have your horse be so perfect or so obedient and well trained, that you never get to know her or her quirks and funny things that she does and you end up with Robo-horse, who is so perfect you can't possibly live up to her expectations and you don't get any enjoyment out of each other.
Good point. I will say though, I hate the word perfect as I truly believe there is no such thing as anything in life being perfect. But yes, you are right, get to know her on a more goofy level. I know she has an amazing personality and I want to discover that more. I feel if I can stop seeing everytime I go there as work for me and work for her, it will benefit us greatly.
I can still keep my goals for her and what my goals are WITH her. But I will stop going there every time with a specific list on what exactly im going to do with her that day. Sometimes I should just go with an open mind and do things as they please. Just go, see her and like you said, have an open mind. Talk to her, listen to her.