Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Just south of sanity
If you think he's too much for you and you're afraid of him, it'd be best to sell him on.
Sure, you can check saddle fit and send him to training for 30 days, but if you feel you'll never be able to trust him again, it'd be better for both of you to sell him to someone who can properly handle him.
At 51 you're no spring chicken (I'm 56), and I understand completely about not wanting to get broken. Once we're over 50, we don't bounce anymore. We splat and break things, and it takes much longer to heal than it did at 25.
May I also recommend you take some lessons on a quiet schoolie? I got badly hurt from being bucked off when I was 52. Broke my right collarbone, several ribs on the left side of my body, and quite a lot of deep bruising on my left side. I still have some numbness, and it's been 5 years. Also got a pretty severe concussion which ultimately resulted in a retinal tear in my left eye, even though I was wearing a helmet.
I wasn't just afraid to ride, I was literally terrified. I shook every time I thought about it, and knew I needed help if I ever wanted to ride again. I took a year's worth of lessons, going from a complete deadhead schoolie to more challenging horses when my trainer thought I was ready. Best thing in the world for me, which is why I'm suggesting it for you.
I got bucked off while mounting, so even now I have a small moment of fear when getting on a horse, but once I'm on and they're not acting up too much, I'm fine.
I have a sweet, goofy, lazy TB gelding who can go a year without being ridden, and will come right back to it as if he was ridden the previous day. That is the kind of horse you need, and I'm so grateful to have found this guy. There are plenty of them out there, so you do NOT need to settle for a horse who scares you.
I'm a used-to-be-fearless rider. Anything that had a hide and hooves, I'd ride. Not anymore. After almost 40 years of riding, I have nothing to prove to anyone except myself.
Good luck, and keep us posted.
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Last edited by Speed Racer; 05-05-2015 at 11:04 AM.