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post #11 of 59 Old 05-05-2015, 01:55 PM
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If you think he's too much for you and you're afraid of him, it'd be best to sell him on.

Sure, you can check saddle fit and send him to training for 30 days, but if you feel you'll never be able to trust him again, it'd be better for both of you to sell him to someone who can properly handle him.

At 51 you're no spring chicken (I'm 56), and I understand completely about not wanting to get broken. Once we're over 50, we don't bounce anymore. We splat and break things, and it takes much longer to heal than it did at 25.

May I also recommend you take some lessons on a quiet schoolie? I got badly hurt from being bucked off when I was 52. Broke my right collarbone, several ribs on the left side of my body, and quite a lot of deep bruising on my left side. I still have some numbness, and it's been 5 years. Also got a pretty severe concussion which ultimately resulted in a retinal tear in my left eye, even though I was wearing a helmet.

I wasn't just afraid to ride, I was literally terrified. I shook every time I thought about it, and knew I needed help if I ever wanted to ride again. I took a year's worth of lessons, going from a complete deadhead schoolie to more challenging horses when my trainer thought I was ready. Best thing in the world for me, which is why I'm suggesting it for you.

I got bucked off while mounting, so even now I have a small moment of fear when getting on a horse, but once I'm on and they're not acting up too much, I'm fine.

I have a sweet, goofy, lazy TB gelding who can go a year without being ridden, and will come right back to it as if he was ridden the previous day. That is the kind of horse you need, and I'm so grateful to have found this guy. There are plenty of them out there, so you do NOT need to settle for a horse who scares you.

I'm a used-to-be-fearless rider. Anything that had a hide and hooves, I'd ride. Not anymore. After almost 40 years of riding, I have nothing to prove to anyone except myself.

Good luck, and keep us posted.
I will say this is one of the few times I agree with SR. LOL you need to work on you and not be concerned with getting another horse. So many reasons that could have caused the buck and you will never trust him. That said many riders cause horse issues so that is why I say wait to replace horseand get educated on your skills. Maybe old owners will buy back at a discount. Especially if they didn't have issue with him. It will be hard to sell and be honest why.
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post #12 of 59 Old 05-05-2015, 01:58 PM
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"A seven year old that would not pick up one lead at the canter". This to me, in your situation, is a big red flag. Please sell this horse. As has been mentioned, he will be fine with someone else, get the 30 days training if you want to, but at our age, (I am older than you) you do not want to spend time training this horse when you want to be riding. Get an old horse, don't pass on one that's 20 just because you feel he is to old. Get your confidence back, and enjoy riding.
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post #13 of 59 Old 05-05-2015, 02:01 PM
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I agree, if you are rattled now, I don't think training is going to help much. Sure you could invest a bunch of money into 30 days, have him checked for pain etc.. and then a month later you will still likely be very nervous riding him.

I'm only 30 but I understand the nerve rattling fear. I've had two very serious falls that almost killed me, one from a horse running away with me and another from mounting a green horse that took off and bucked me off and trampled me. Both falls resulted in being in the hospital for an extended period and long term rehab. Now whenever I feel like the canter is out of control I freezer in fear. And when a horse bucks my stomach and heart jump into my throat and I want to cry. So i'm a little more selective about what I ride these days because of those fears. I also have some serious health conditions that make falls risky.

Anyway my point is, you don't bounce as easy anymore. Owning a horse is supposed to be something you enjoy. Every ride shouldn't be about being in fear. I think selling your boy and buying something that is more of a steady eddy is the route for you. But first I would look into lessons on some school masters to rebuild your confidence.
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post #14 of 59 Old 05-05-2015, 02:23 PM
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Sell him. Get something you can enjoy without worrying. Ita obvious you're nervous about him now. If you're riding for pleasure get something you can really enjoy.
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post #15 of 59 Old 05-05-2015, 02:26 PM
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Older people hit the ground more heavily and break a lot easier.
Let this horse go to someone younger who wants a challenge and find yourself a horse that's got more mileage under the saddle, is better schooled and the sort of temperament that allows it to be left for months but can still be just got on and ridden away - not needing to be lunged at all before mounted
Even if you send it to a trainer for a month its still going to be a green horse that needs a confident experienced rider to continue its training on a more regular basis than you as a 'pleasure rider' wants
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post #16 of 59 Old 05-05-2015, 03:19 PM
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A young horse that is new at the canter definitely needs some training. It may take more than 30 days of training for the horse to get it safely for you. Then after that may even take a year or more of you riding before your horse really gets it well. It will be a money and time pit. I don't know you but based on what you've said I think you should sell it and get an older more experienced horse. Let someone else work on that canter.
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post #17 of 59 Old 05-05-2015, 03:21 PM
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If you're uncomfortable, and are unsure that training will solve your confidence issue, I would sell him.

And, for the record, lunging is not an end-all-be-all problem solver like some people in this thread have suggested xD
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post #18 of 59 Old 05-05-2015, 04:14 PM
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Throwing my two cents in – find the horse you need NOW, not a horse who MIGHT be what you need with 30, 60, 90 days, or possibly even a year’s worth of training, and even then it’s no guarantee he will be the horse you need. He’s young and there are definitely holes in his training if you’re having to teach him the canter and he’s 7 years old.

I’m 20 years younger than you and *I* would be scared to get on this horse. These days I’m just scared of getting hurt, because there’s nobody but me to take care of me at this point in my life. My parents are in their late 60’s, I am divorced and have no children- so I try to minimize my risks as much as possible.

SR is also right in that riding should first and foremost be FUN. For some people, riding a challenging horse is their idea of fun. For someone like me, it’s having a horse I know I can saddle or harness up and know that they’re going to basically be the same as the last time I got on them, and I don’t need to worry about too much in the way of silly behavior.
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post #19 of 59 Old 05-05-2015, 04:24 PM
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I'm afraid that bucking or rearing is something I would just have to say no thanks to... I agree a 7 year old horse might be a little green for your needs.
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post #20 of 59 Old 05-05-2015, 04:33 PM
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Had one of these. Broke my trainer's hip after one of those rodeo performances. Also had a horse I grew into and we were together for 13 years, so tough call for you.

Talk it over with friends and trainer. In the end you will know what is right for you AND the horse.
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