Originally Posted by Dreamcatcher Arabians View Post
If she'd have been a horse she'd have had that white eyed, flared nostril, snorting, jigging thing going on the whole 2 hr ride and would have gotten home completely lathered. Her horse, however, was utterly bored with it all.
Oh that so describes my one and only trail ride since my fall, a snorting, wide eyed sweated up mess, while Gibbs was as cool as a cucumber.
Overcoming fear is hard, and I don't think that we ever get back to the recklessness of youth. We have to accept who we are now, and never compare ourselves to who we were before, because that is unfair, that person is gone, you are all new!
Fear is reasonable, unless it becomes so debilitating that you can't enjoy the ride or function in it, the cure though is more and more riding, and with a trustworthy horse, or more than one if you are lucky. The more 'boring' rides you can put in, the better, that dials down the anxiety centres to believe that "this is OK" and the more relaxed you will become.
Riding should be fun, and it is 100% OK for you to decide where fun starts and stops. My fun is walk, jog and lope in an arena, doing dressage patterns, or just working on basics, I love it. January 2014 I would have though you were mad if you said I would enjoy lope work, strictly walk and jog back then. If you are comfortable walking around an arena, that's all you have to do, if areanas scare you and you just want to walk on the trail, that is also fine. Do what you enjoy, keep doing it.