Originally Posted by turkishdelight View Post
I have been banned from my lessons after mentioning showing to my parents (which I would have paid for and been responsible for completely).
I was desperate for a horse as a teen (as were many of us here!). My parents weren't interested in horses and could not afford to buy one. I remember working out costings etc the way you did. The reality is, though, that horses cost a lot of money, and the person earning that money needs to see the value of spending it. Also, even though you're more than willing to be responsible for yourself and your riding, the reality is that it will still impact on the whole family.
Do I recall correctly that you once said you hope to study medicine? If this is the case, and you're going into year 11, the reality is that you've got a whole lot of study ahead of you. This can be hard to manage as well as a horse of your own. I know how much it hurts, but try your hardest to focus on you study, and work towards getting a well paid job so that you can buy a horse for yourself when you're all grown up.
I'm 33 now and with a daughter of my own. She's learning to ride, and although I rarely ride myself these days, I plan to buy her a horse sometime this year when she's ready. It will mean sacrifices in other parts of our lives, but those are sacrifices I'm happy to make because I see value in having horses in our lives. People that aren't horsey can't see that. Does that make sense?
Reading your posts make me feel like it was just yesterday that my heart ached for a horse as a teen. Imagine my joy and happiness in being able to give my daughter what I longed for so desperately growing up! One day, you will do the same!
Focus on your studies, finish school, get a good education so you can get a great job. Read and try to learn more about horses in other ways. I know it's easier said than done.
Ask Mum and Dad what you can do to get your lessons back. Tell them you've accepted you can't have a horse for now, but you'd really love to continue riding. Promise them you won't ask them to buy one again.
I know it's hard to accept, and it really hurts, but horses will still be there when you're grown up. You'll have your own one day, and if you ever have a daughter, your joy in letting her have horses in her life will be the greatest feeling ever. Trust me!