Join Date: Sep 2014
Location: Williams, Arizona
• Horses: 0
How much time are you able to spend with your horse?
Hondo came with a lot of baggage. I was told he was not safe to ride over a walk solo without another horse along. He was herd bound and balky.
I did hand walks with him for two months before riding. We spent time together. There was always a dish of pellets along the trail somewhere. I always returned him to the herd. (plus he would always have to leave part of a dish of pellets to return to the herd)
He began to trust me. He was terrible about shying while mounting when I first began riding him. He will now stand anywhere for me to mount.
I had no trainer and no lessons. I tried to among other things use two principles I read somewhere, Set a framework of achieving goals at 1% per day for 100 days. Seems slow, but slow is where it's at. Then you're done. The other was, "The horse doesn't care how much you know until he knows how much you care". They are not a dog but they can tell much if not all of what is going on in your head.
They are deeply sensitive animals, they are just not able to express it with the rigid face. But they sure can have other ways to get things across.
He may be taking advantage of you but to me that's sort of a negative thought directed at the horse, and be certain he can immediately pick up on any negative thought you have directed toward him. And he may not be taking advantage of you. He may be just being a horse testing you. He HAS to test you to find out who you are for his own safety.
And one thing your instructor may have already mentioned. If you abort a lesson, or show signs that you are going to abort a lesson at the time of his testing, you are teaching him something about yourself that you don't want him to think. But if you feel unsafe, safety is first. But if possible, continue past that point to where he's doing ok before aborting.
Good luck with your decision, which is yours to make.
I'll end my early morning ramblings here.