Doubts and cold feet... - The Horse Forum
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post #1 of 7 Old 01-21-2020, 05:28 PM Thread Starter
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Doubts and cold feet...

Hi...itís me again. A few days ago I told my parents I donít want a horse this year,that I still want one,just not this year.

Iím kind of worried that it will take over my childhood,I suppose. Worried that I wonít have time to do ANYTHING else. Driving to see it seems a lil annoying,I know boarding is nice,but Iím an introvert so the thought of having to be around people to see my horse seems stressful and Iím worried people will think I do everything wrong.

I guess the doubts started with the money. Horses arenít cheap. My family likes vacations and Iím worried they wonít be able to do them because of something ďIĒ wanted. I would work off part of board,which adds time.

I love dogs,and would like another one,but how am I going to find the time to spend time with the dog I have,train another puppy to be a well behaved dog and take care of and ride my horse,along with working off board?

Iím worried come summer Iíll get the horse bug again...then what? Did anyone have any of these feelings before getting a horse? How did it work out?

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post #2 of 7 Old 01-21-2020, 05:57 PM
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Do you have a way to ride and spend time around horses that doesn't require you to own one?

You could take lessons, even a couple a week, for a lot less than it costs to own your own. You wouldn't have the same level of commitment, time-wise or money-wise, but you'd still get all the "best bits" by riding with instruction. If you wanted to learn more about horse care, you could volunteer some time, too. Or ask that your lessons include some care instruction as well.

There are loads of options that don't require ownership! I don't own a horse right now, and I'm riding more often that I did when I DID own one!!
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post #3 of 7 Old 01-21-2020, 06:09 PM
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Can't say as I ever felt that way. I've always felt the time spent with my horses is better than doing anything else.

I see them twice a day, every day. Rain, shine, sleet or snow I am taking care of my horses. I do take vacations, but hire someone to take care of them while I am gone.

If you don't want a horse because you feel other things are more important and you don't want to use your time to be with your horse, you probably shouldn't own a horse.
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post #4 of 7 Old 01-21-2020, 06:10 PM
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Why not just lease a horse, maybe even just for a few months, and see how it goes? You'll get a better idea if horse ownership is really for you or not. And you don't have to worry about selling it if it doesn't work out.
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post #5 of 7 Old 01-21-2020, 06:22 PM Thread Starter
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Thank you all for the replies.
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post #6 of 7 Old 01-21-2020, 09:10 PM
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I think they are all very valid feelings and to have them does not make you any less of a horse lover or rider.

I don't own. I just take lessons. I would like to take more lessons than I currently do, and I would like to lease, but neither of those are options right now. And with my life as it is right now, I don't want to own as I don't have the time or money to fully do horse ownership as it deserves and as I would want to do it plus to have the other things in my life that I enjoy. That does not mean that I would not enjoy horse ownership and everything it entails if I had the time and money for it, my life is just not right for it right now.

Go with your gut. There is no rush. Enjoy horses in another way and enjoy being a child and your dog and maybe future puppy.

As a fellow introvert, I also totally get not wanting to have to talk to people to go and hang out with your horse in a boarding situation.
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post #7 of 7 Old 01-22-2020, 12:11 AM Thread Starter
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Thank you everyone,sorry I wasnít able to leave a longer reply earlier. I think Iíll see if I can board at my friends small horse barn and just wait until the horse and situation feel right. Iím a worrier and glad to see these feeling arenít 100% out of the ordinary.

I went to a new barn to take a lesson,had a horse that I didnít feel right on at all,it was my first time on a Tennessee Walker and I found it odd and uncomfortable compared to quarter horses. So I guess I panicked a bit and felt...dumb. Which led me to doubt,which led to this post because I was so confused.

Thanks all!
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