Join Date: May 2011
Location: Chino Valley, AZ
I honestly think it depends more on the individual horses, rather than the genders.
My best friend has two mares and a gelding. The gelding is an OTTB who is bat-crap crazy (wish I was joking) and VERY high-strung. One of the mares is a QH who is laid-back and lazy. The other mare is an arab/paint cross who is still young (3yo).
The gelding was gelded late (5yo) and is what I always grew up knowing as "proud cut." He has some very stallion-like tendancies and can be an absolute jerk to the mares, biting, kicking and striking at them very aggressively. For that reason, he is NOT ever turned out with them. If one of the mares gets out of his sight, he has a complete meltdown, even if they are just taken into the barn (enclosed mare motel) and he's left in the arena 30ft away.
The QH mare couldn't care less about being away from either the gelding or the other mare. She will willingly go out on a trail ride by herself and is not barn or herd sour. She is not a dominant mare, really.
The 3yo mare is very dominant. She will get into biting matches over the fence when she is in her stall and the gelding is turned out in the arena. She will also kick the other mare when they are turned out together and is just a sassy little squirt. She is VERY herd bound and will get very antsy if she can't see either the other mare or gelding (doesn't have to be both, just one or the other). She had a rough start to life, though, so I think that may have something to do with it.
To give you an idea, the gelding was 8 when my best friend got the QH mare who was 3 at the time and they have been together ever since (the gelding just turned 17 and the mare just turned 12). She has only had the 3yo arab/paint mare for a year and a half, about.
OTOH, my gelding was always out with a herd of other geldings, no mares, when he was turned out. There were a couple of times that my friend turned her arab mare out with my gelding, her arab gelding and our other friend's arab gelding, but he couldn't have cared less about Cassie, who was an extremely dominant mare. His only neighbor at the old barn was a gelding. He is not herd bound at all. He is fine alone or in a group of geldings. He trail rides in a group just fine, mares or geldings. I haven't ridden him on the trail alone, but I have taken him on trail walks alone (before he was broke) and he was absolutely fine. He is, however, about as laid-back as they come, by nature.
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