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post #11 of 22 Old 10-19-2014, 10:44 PM
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If you just want a horse to love on too maybe also consider a mini? Would not be too much smaller than your pony and they live a long time...cost less to feed too etc..good luck!!
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post #12 of 22 Old 10-19-2014, 10:49 PM
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It's completely normal to feel a little nervous. Owning a horse is just kind of one of those things where you learn the most through experience. I can understand why the four year old mare may not be the best fit for you. Especially if she likes to work (not sure if she does, but must younger horses don't like to be pasture ornaments), then she could be a great match for someone else. If you still want a buddy for your Shetland, which I would suggest because horses are herd animals and need equine friends, then just look for something that is lower-maintenance! I have a mini donkey to be a buddy for my horse, he's very cheap and easy to take care of, or there are lots of situations where people need to get rid of older horses, but still want them to go to a good home. I think maybe you got pressured into the package deal (were they sold together?). There's nothing wrong with that, the mare could be a wonderful horse, but maybe just not your wonderful horse. :)

I get very easily attached to animals, so it'd be hard for me to let her go, but I think in the end you're just going to have to with your gut feeling. Good luck, and hope the advice helps!
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post #13 of 22 Old 10-19-2014, 11:06 PM
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Originally Posted by tinyliny View Post
People like you, who just want to care for and love on a nice quiet horse are very special, and there are horses out there who will be so very lucky to be found by you. there are lots of older horses that people want to get rid of, (or just want to retire to a good home) and these horses have good training on them, good manners, and are generall calm and a pleasure to be around. I'd sell the mare and look to give a nice oldster a loving , companionable home.
I second this. Find another wonderful, retired horse and just love it to death. I often think, that if I ever give up riding, I would still want a wonderful older horse just as a pet.

While you can do that with the 4 yr old, I don't know if that would be a perfect fit. I know my 4 yr old demands attention and gets tons of energy if he isn't ridden pretty often. Even though I love him and always want to keep him, he wouldn't make as good a pet as his 20 yr old mother.

Older horses are just wonderfully special and rewarding to be around. So if you aren't going to ride, I would sell the 4 yr old back to the original owner and find you another older companion horse. With a little looking, you will probably get one for free, because people often want their oldies to go to a good home and not as many people want to keep a horse without using them. So it would be win-win for both you and the horse. I am a huge fan of older horses. They really are wonderful!
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post #14 of 22 Old 10-20-2014, 07:42 AM
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I am curious to know why the seller sold you the 4 year old, knowing you were looking for a "friend" to the pony. I'd question her a bit, before you make the decision. Maybe she is aware of a health issue or conformity issue that makes this horse never ridable, and she knew it would never have a good life unless it was just a companion horse? I'd check it out.

If that is not the case, and this horse could be trainable and rideable, I would sell her back to the ower probably, and ask someone else to help you find a better "match" for what you are looking for.

YOu could even try looking up horse rescues in your area, and working with one of those to find a nice horse that needs a home.

Regardless of what you do, thank you for your heart!
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post #15 of 22 Old 10-20-2014, 07:50 AM
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There are so many "free" pasture sound only horses out there.. older and retired.. I cannot conceive as to why someone would sell you a 4 year old horse unless that horse was unsound (mentally or physically).

Exercise the right of refusal.. and get the mare out of there. You do not want that. What you want is something else and you need to stand firm on that so that is what you get. Next time you will know more and will be able to say no. The right horse is out there.

When you separate them the pony will neigh for awhile. It is OK. He will be fine. Try to find a gelding close to his size and closer to his age to put with him. It will work out much better.
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post #16 of 22 Old 10-20-2014, 10:13 AM
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Also once you sell the 4 yo back, if you tell us your approximate location many people on the forum love helping people find the right horse for you. As others have said there are many free horses that are either not sound for riding or need a retirement home and you sound perfect for that. Do be prepared that an older horse may require more vet care and feeding expenses than a younger one.
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post #17 of 22 Old 10-20-2014, 02:24 PM
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Even though the seller has first right of refusal.. ask for the price you paid ! If the seller refuses, have it put down in writing that she refused to pay the asking price,and voids her right to first refusal which can save you court cost later. Then advertise and sell the horse, or have her put down. just throwing it out there, if the 4 yr old is lame/crippled you may not be able to sell her.
Then find a free older horse or pony that you could love on , you may be able to find one that is usably sound, walk around on .
It is very difficult to find a home for a horse that is not usably sound, by which I mean, i can get on the horse, go for some short trail rides, no running, gaming, etc.
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post #18 of 22 Old 10-21-2014, 09:32 PM Thread Starter
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thanks to all for the advice.....
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post #19 of 22 Old 10-21-2014, 09:39 PM
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Originally Posted by smdecuir View Post
Cordillera Cowboy, thanks for the advice. The companion would be for the 20 yr old shetland, and of course for me. I was thinking that the pony might like another older pony for a companion instead of the young mare. And I'm pretty much decided that I will not ride. I don't want to upset the seller I bought her from, but I've had this gut feeling for about 2 months now. I have mentioned my feelings to her. The seller has a right of first refusal on the bill of sale contract. Should I have her look for an older pony for me or find someone else?
You need a horsey friend to help sell both of these. Do NOT feel sorry for the seller, who indeed, saw you coming. EVERYBODY buys the wrong horse. Some of us, like me, have bought several wrong horses.
You need somebody's show horse that the owner has outgrown. Could be size, age, inability to: jump high enough, spin correctly, not like cattle (my BEST babysitter was a QH sold bc he didn't care for cattle), too short, too tall, wrong color, wrong breed, too laid back...the list goes on and on.
THIS type of horse, which is no particular breed, has been groomed to death, tacked up all of the time, ridden thousands of hours, easy to lead, easy to trailer, stands for the Vet, behaves for the farrier, and is just a joy to be around.
Many people make your mistake. Just don't make the mistake again.
You WILL end up selling at a loss. Take that, and move on. We've all been there. =D

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post #20 of 22 Old 10-22-2014, 09:17 PM Thread Starter
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Being a horse newbie, why would the seller pick this horse for me. I explained that I was more than likely not going to ride. I already had a 20 yr old shetland pony that I had just recently adopted. She was highly recommended by a good friend, a very knowledgeable horse person. I questioned the age of this mare. She insisted that this horse was young enough to come without any baggage, so I wouldn't have any bad habits to deal with. And of course I believed her. She helped me tremendously over the last 2 months. I told her again , twice that I was concerned about the age of the mare. And that all that I had wanted was an older mature very sweet and gentle horse. I can't part with the pony, I adopted him and I feel its my duty to keep him. It's hard to see her everyday knowing that she should be someones wonderful riding horse. The horses that you speak of in your post, where would I find a horse like that?
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