I feel so bad you are this upset with news of family and your horse addiction so frustrating..
I hear your frustration, your endless worry and feeling of inadequate with regard to Katie...
You know what...when you bought Katie you rode her
...nearly all the time by yourself.
You were so proud of what you were building on, accomplishing and doing with her, together.
Your rides might not of been great, earth-shattering fantastic, but it was you and her learning together.
Now, you are told a bunch of platitudes as others take and ride your horse that you pay all the bills on, maintain so others can reap benefits of....
You hand over the reins to strangers who are/were supposed to in return work with you to become a better rider with Katie, aka lessons that never materialized.
Katie I bet is a point & shoot ride over fences...she loves to jump, stay out of her way, give her rein, get off her back and go!! Learn to rate her powerful canter/gallop as she lands is what you need to do..
Doing this all for Katie
sounds like a line you've been fed by the barn so much you now believe it yourself...
Katie would be happy living in a field as long as she could stuff her face and do nothing, just like any other horse. You know that, you do.
You need to make some decisions about how much more walking on you are willing to take before you take back your horse, stop the "allowed" rides and you get to the barn 4+ days a week and ride your horse for 20 minutes minimum at a fast trot to burn some energy, stretch those legs and exercise...the more you ride and spend time with your horse the more she will know you.
Think about it..who rides her more, where is she more, who just hangs out with her doing mundane boring things like grooming...not you.
You are told she is better here doing this, away from you
, and only this person ever handles her or rides her....sure of that? It's what you are told,..but is it fact?
I see, I hear and I've worked the industry and know the lines told to owners of nice animals the riding establishment wants to use but can't afford to or won't buy their own...so you get you and Katie and much misery.
I think you are about at the breaking point...a bit more push and you will put your foot down and take back your horse.
I'm not in favor, never have been of having such a nice horse on a schooling line for staff???
What the heck is that??? You are being used and played with...period.
This place does hack rides and uses your horse for them, supposedly only for staff...whether for a guide as you are told or who is astride is
You dedicate to ride Katie... Go get your horse back.
Commit your life to going to the barn 5 days a week to ride and do mundane things with your horse.
She will still have t/o, just not endless days of it at another facility where you don't see what is going on, not see who rides, not see who uses, not see nor know the facts...only what is spoon fed to you.
I've been around to long to not know what really happens...
Don't care what country you reside in...sneaks who can get away with as much as possible exist everywhere when owners are lenient, easy-going, not around and take a line presented as gospel fact.
Time you put your foot in the stirrup and go ride your horse, for you and for Katie.
Go learn together, get back your confidence together...
If it means you pull out of this barn and go farther away...well, that is what that thing called a car is for.
other barns just as nice or nicer who will take wonderful care of her. Fact.
Get a facility with a indoor arena or lit ring for night riding year round regardless of weather and go ride.
Go get some horse therapy...so far you spend, spend and spend and reap so little pleasure from it...it isn't fair to you and it isn't fair to Katie either.
I also have a good memory and remember the issues of lameness, injury, bugs and such that took place in a place that so takes great, exemplary care of her...
Now some hugs for you and support when so upset.
sorry for you being in this position.
But the remedy is positive actions and the first is... Katie is yours to ride and care for. No more does she get used by others as done. Horse therapy is good for what ails the soul and body, really it is.