Hi, firstly, I do realise there was a tech problem recently, that might be the reason for it, but if you can break up your big block of text with paragraphs please, it makes it a lot easier to read.
Originally Posted by Countrygirl21613 View Post
I have tried to work with this horse as much as I could but we have never clicked. I have always been told the horse chooses the rider not vise versa.
I've never been all that big on 'gut feelings' personally. Yes, I believe 'bonding' is important, as I personally want a friendship/partnership with the horses I ride & deal with, but that comes about largely through the effort, understanding, consideration of the human. The onus is not on the horse to meet you half way. You need to make yourself *worth* 'choosing'. I mean this respectfully, I just get the idea you're a young beginner, and no one is born knowing, we have to make an effort to learn about horses & how they think...
He will try to throw me every time I have tried to ride him and when I have lunged him he has always tried to get away from me.
You don't mention your experience/skill/knowledge level, but it sounds like you're a relative novice, so I suggest you find a good teacher/trainer, whether that's one you employ or a family/friend who's knowledgeable.
Horses generally buck under saddle due to fear or pain(so certainly rule those out/address them first)... or due to that originally being the case at least, as if it worked to get rid of the discomfort/frightening thing on their back, they will learn to do it again.
You also don't mention whether the horse has been taught to lunge, so especially if you're not sure of what you're doing & neither is he, I'd be working on other basic stuff on the ground & getting that good before attempting to lunge.
when I grabbed his halter he tried to rear up. I have mentioned this time and time again to the family members, that we are just not a good match.
How about asking for them to help you, rather than just telling them stuff is wrong? Sounds like you've made up your mind against him though, and his sense of you not liking him will impact on his attitude towards you. He may also 'have your number' as someone that he can do what he likes with. But also to 'grab' at a horse's halter(I realise that may be just manner of speech...) is likely to provoke reactions too.
She's around 14.5hh tall. I asked my family member if I could buy her from him and he said no she's the best horse he's ever ridden and he's going to keep her for himself. He is way too big for her
1hh is 4" or 10cm and each point of a hh is 1". Therefore she is maybe 15.1hh. Decent sized horse. Depends how she's built, not just height as to how much she can carry. Whether or not he is too big for her, or whether he works them much/at all is irrelevant though. He won't sell them to you & that's his prerogative.
I feel like I am being taken advantage of. I'm paying $50 for a run in for a horse I can't do anything with. I'm trying to decide if I should just cut my losses and get all of my tack and equipment from there and save my money until I can afford to buy my own horse
Sounds like communication may be a big part of the problem. Have you ever tried to sit down & discuss stuff with them?? And if you've asked to buy a horse from them but they know you can't afford it anyway, then...
Sounds like you either need to make the most of what you've got(many that can't afford their own horse would jump at the opportunity you have, for only $25/week), and work towards getting something going with that horse, or yes, quit the arrangement all together & wait until you can afford your own horse.