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post #1 of 8 Old 11-07-2015, 11:52 AM Thread Starter
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Unhappy Horse Riding Lessons?

My father is completely against horses. My mother doesn't mind them at all though. So i asked if i could have horseback riding lessons, at a farm very close to us. My mother wants me and my little sister to have some, but my dad says he doesn't want to "get us into Horsey stuff!" How can I convince him a little without pushing it to far? PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

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post #2 of 8 Old 11-07-2015, 12:14 PM
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I think your Mother should be the one to convince him.
You could tell him it's good exercise & learning something new can be a good thing. Keeps young people out of trouble too.
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Ask him what he is worried about. It could be that he thinks the hobby is too expensive. Guess what? He's not wrong. If this is the issue, you might be able to get your lessons by working at the stable cleaning stalls etc. Or you can earn the money some other way.

If it is something else (for example my parents thought it was a snooty pastime they didn't approve of), it would be good to find out exactly what it is. Ask him what actions by you would incline him to feel differently.

Tip: don't whine and beg. It's irritating and childish. Act like a serious, rational person and you will get farther.
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Is he against horses because of cost or potential danger? If you know his objection, you can then prepare an "argument" for your case. If the objection is danger, find out from the farm about the safety of their school horses, their insurance, their rider requirements regarding safety equipment (helmets, etc.) and ask your dad to meet the instructor and tour the farm so he can see for himself and ask questions. Have your mom talk to other parents of kids that take lessons so she can help your argument.

If cost is the objection, can you negotiate earning the money for lessons? When I was young and wanted something considered a luxury, my dad would agree that if I paid half the cost he would match it. I spent 10 months one year when I was 12 making and selling nylon pot scrubbers to finance 2 weeks at a summer camp. I also was babysitting by age 12 and saved that money as well.
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I would talk to your mother about it. She should talk to him and you should talk to him yourself too.

Ask him why he feels that way, he may have some good reasons (it can be dangerous and it is expensive, etc) and make sure you have some research done and good counterarguments in place. Act like an adult and show him you are ready and genuinely want to do this.
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post #6 of 8 Old 11-07-2015, 12:24 PM Thread Starter
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Thank You All! I will do my best. My Parents say it is not the money. So i don't know how to argue it.
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post #7 of 8 Old 11-07-2015, 12:29 PM Thread Starter
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That was very, very helpful!!! Thanks!!!!
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post #8 of 8 Old 11-07-2015, 12:47 PM
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If it's not the money that's fine, just ask politely and calmly what it is.

Good luck!
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