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post #1 of 20 Old 04-06-2015, 12:17 AM Thread Starter
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Unhappy How a Fast Should I Be Progressing?

I've been riding for about two years, and I'm constantly lying to the girls at my barn about when I started riding. They are way more advanced than me (granted, their parents can afford horses and more lessons, but still)I still suck at trotting. Some girls there have been riding for a year, are jumping, and own a horse.
I deliberately skip our barns shows, just because I'm embarrassed (I don't see the girls at any other time).
Is my riding progression normal, or am I falling behind?
I got a pretty "soft" instructor because I can't handle people yelling at me, but I think she is being a bit too "soft".
What do you think??
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post #2 of 20 Old 04-06-2015, 12:28 AM
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Do you enjoy riding at all? It sounds like the whole thing is pretty stressful for you.
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post #3 of 20 Old 04-06-2015, 02:46 AM
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gah! barn drama and all makes me want to barf.

do YOU feel ok about where you are? have you been enjoying riding? learning? feeling challenged?

if not, look beyond the "other girls".
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post #4 of 20 Old 04-06-2015, 03:46 AM
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How often do you ride? It's hard to learn anything if you ride like one day a week.

I can't remember the exact quote but it's something like Riding isn't about being better than everyone else, it's about being better than you were

I have this weird mental block about cantering my horse, and I go out and ride with the other girls in the jumping arena. They are cantering around and jumping and I'm toodling around working on my sitting trot. I get an idea and I trot up to and over a pole on the ground and I start yelling MY FIRST JUMP GUYS! No one even laughed but who cares :P I can ride a horse better than I could two years ago :P
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post #5 of 20 Old 04-06-2015, 04:34 AM
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Who cares how you're progressing? It's about how you're enjoying it. I've been riding 20 years, and feel as though I'm going backwards now as would much rather plod around the countryside and just school once a week and have a jump/lesson once a week as a necessity rather than enjoyment, I used to be all about the jumping,hunting and mounted games. Stop worrying about how you're progressing and just enjoy what you're doing. If you feel your instructors too soft, get another one. If you tell them you want pushing but you don't like being shouted at they should be a bit nicer to you! Go and watch people riding and read up loads, do core exercises off the horse to try and help yourself. But seriously don't worry about what the other girls are doing. I had my first canter after 3 years and then jumped after riding for 4 years, same year I got my first pony. And then I learnt about falling off PDQ!
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post #6 of 20 Old 04-06-2015, 04:48 AM
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I know a lot of kids and young people who are good riders but get very little enjoyment out of riding because they were rushed to progress and forced to do things they didn't feel comfortable with when they were learning. I think a 'soft' instructor would have done these people some good!

As long as you feel safe and confident when you are riding I wouldn't worry about your progression compared to others. Only move on to something new and challenging when you feel you want to otherwise you could end up ruining your confidence and taking the joy out of riding for yourself.

Easier said than done I know because peer pressure can be really hard to deal with in these situations. Keep going and finding enjoyment and you will progress without even noticing :)
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post #7 of 20 Old 04-06-2015, 06:25 AM
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Measure riding time in hours not years.

One hour a week for two years is 100 hours. At that stage I would be expecting a basic walk trot and canter and a stable position, able to ride in and out of an arena.

Your friends with their own horses could be riding 5 days a week. That's 250 hours in a year. Significantly more than you ride.

However time riding or ages get less important as you improve.

People skill in different areas. Judge yourself on you.
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post #8 of 20 Old 04-06-2015, 07:17 AM
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Everyone learns at their own speed, especially with horses! I'd have a chit chat with your instructor and see what direction your heading and how she thinks your doing. You have a lifetime to learn to ride. Even instructors take lessons!
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post #9 of 20 Old 04-06-2015, 07:30 AM
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Originally Posted by purplepolkadots View Post
I got a pretty "soft" instructor because I can't handle people yelling at me, but I think she is being a bit too "soft".
What do you think??
Temperament of the teacher doesn't affect how "pushy" they are. They can shout at you all they like and not take you far or be soft as anything and push you a lot. In general its a balance of letting the student learn at their own pace, whilst also sometimes pushing them enough to get over the difficult bits or to try new things.

I would talk to your instructor, might be that you could work to put a few more challenges in your training which would give you more to work on.

It might also just be that you're in one of those learning spots that takes most people a while to get through with little visible progress. It can be a nightmare when one has an interest and yet appears to be learning very very slowly, but it happens to us all.
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post #10 of 20 Old 04-06-2015, 08:55 AM
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Originally Posted by purplepolkadots View Post
Is my riding progression normal, or am I falling behind?
Depends how often you actually ride. If you only ride 1 hour per week, then you probably are where you should be.

If you want to advance faster, you have to put in the time. Riding every single day is the best way to enhance your riding skills.
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