Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: Murfreesboro, TN
Agree with PP's re time spent.
I am also a new horse owner, and one thing that has helped me feel more connected to my mare is not only ground work but time spent in the saddle. I try to do everything-- retrieve her from her pasture, groom her, tack her up, ride her, untack, groom again-- hang around while she cools down, feed her and then return her to her pasture.
It's going to take time, I've only been around my mare for about 6 weeks now so does she know I'm her boss? Probably not, considering she is boarded and daily taken care of by another person. But she does know that when I show up, we have some work to do and I'm going to take care of her. So, with you-- as your relationship progresses, you'll start to get used to your new horses quirks, habits, smells, etc and they will do the same for you. Use the time you do have with him to start building some trust, even though you're new to horses, show that you do know some things. You do expect him to do some work. You will take care of him when you're there.
The essential joy of being with horses is that it brings us in contact with the rare elements of grace, beauty, spirit, and fire. ~Sharon Ralls Lemon