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post #21 of 28 Old 12-23-2014, 01:16 PM
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Originally Posted by Elana View Post

First and foremost, horses are NOT dogs and do not bond with humans like that. There is no Flicka, Fury, Mr. Ed or The Black Stallion. Wipe Disney right out of your mind.

There is, however, Beautiful Jim Key.

That horse and owner had an incredible bond. And that was due to time being spent together and the horse having quite the personality.
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post #22 of 28 Old 12-23-2014, 04:00 PM
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groom the horse , ride the horse. and leave it alone, dont pester and bug him/her. Some horses will bond with you, other will not,, but the bond is not like how a pet bonds ( dog or cat) . They do respond to some people over others.
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post #23 of 28 Old 12-23-2014, 04:44 PM
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Take him on in-hand walks, just go out and say hey to him and give him a hug. Occasionally give him treats but don't overdo it and encourage him to start nipping! I go outside and go sit on the round bales we get for Charlie and Alfie and I'll drink my coffee and read a book while sitting on top and occasionally read to them. They seem to enjoy it!
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post #24 of 28 Old 12-28-2014, 05:54 PM
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Smile Bonding is fun :)

I have a lease horse and I've had her for a year and a half. When I first started leasing her, we were not connected. We didn't get along, she wouldn't listen, and it was just hard.
I started to just really spend time with her and show that I don't just care about riding and work. I'm not saying you can't ride her at all but I'm just suggesting that you do a mix of things.
I would take her into the round pen and watch her hand graze. I would also get a handful of treats and do tricks with her. I would use absolutely no force and it honestly helped her gain my trust a ton.
Now we are an inseparable pair that fully trust each other.
You will go through many ups and downs with your horse but in the end, honestly it will work out. Horses are amazing horses that are easy to love.

Enjoy the ride and have fun.
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post #25 of 28 Old 12-28-2014, 06:57 PM
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I like to sit back and have a beer with my horse. We watch some football and high five each other. He seems to really enjoy the quality time.
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post #26 of 28 Old 12-28-2014, 07:55 PM
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Horse, Follow Closely: Native American Horsemanship Hardcover
by GaWaNi PonyBoy

This is an older book but I read it once some of it was kind of goofy but, it a good read.

I didn't read every ones posts but I would also ask. What do you want from this "bond"? I ask because I find that some people that ask this question at the end of the day they are wanting something from their horse that their horse is unable to give. I do know that the better you and your horse know each other the better things can be. I have worked with horses that I was the only person working with them for long amounts of time, and the horses will get to know you if you are consistent.
But also I have ridden LOTs of horses and I never gone out of my way to "bond" with a horse for the purpose of "bonding" you will get to know a horse the more you work with them, and they will come to know you too this kind of bond I have experienced many times. But it come with time spent
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post #27 of 28 Old 12-28-2014, 09:16 PM
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Originally Posted by memeseku View Post
Just got a new horse but I'm such a beginner with horses I have no idea how to bond etc. help please.
I started out absolutely new with a horse that was to be mine providing..., and now he is mine.

He was very herd bound. Did not want to even lead away from the herd. I searched online and found a suggestion I liked. Hide some pellets or other good stuff in a dish somewhere and discover it along the way.

I did this everyday for well over a month. I still do occasionally. He never got to finish his pellets we "found". Before he finished, he had to go back to the herd that he didn't want to leave.

This, plus grooming, talking to him, watching him eat, etc has worked very well for me. He now walks right up to me in the herd and helps me get his bridle up his nose and over his ears and leads off without a hitch.

A lot of it is just time time time. You learn stuff about him and he learns stuff about you. He develops trust. I always took him back to the herd. I never turned him loose to go frantically whinnying trying to find them.

And just love him and care for him. Shoo flies away from him. Find places that itch or feel good and scratch him. Horses groom each other.

If you do stuff like that he absolutely knows. It is said, and it may well be true, our horses know more about us than we know.

One well known trainer who likes to save up "sayings" says, YOUR HORSE DOES NOT CARE HOW MUCH YOU KNOW UNTIL HE KNOWS HOW MUCH YOU CARE.

That and setting out to accomplish 1% per day for 100 days has been my guide. And be prepared for setbacks.

That's my thoughts on the bonding part. It's worked for me.

Training is a different deal, I'll stay outta that.
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post #28 of 28 Old 12-28-2014, 09:30 PM
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Originally Posted by CowboyBob View Post

I ask because I find that some people that ask this question at the end of the day they are wanting something from their horse that their horse is unable to give.
I agree strongly with this. A horse is a horse is a horse and not a dog. That said, I do receive a lot of companionship from my horse. Not sure how much of the reverse is true, maybe some, but I'm doubting it can ever approach the same type bond as a dog.

This could well be the prime reason for such a high percentage of new horse owners selling within six months. Me, I'm happy that he comes to me, will stand without being tied while he gets saddled up, and hauls me all over places I can no longer access on foot. And it is a delight when as I walk from one foot the the other he has it on the way up before I get there.

That's what I call bonded, and they can and will give that.
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