Do you have a trainer? When I actually got sensible and asked my trainer for help she found me just what I needed within a few weeks. Gibbs was never advertised, the owner contacted trainer, trainer contacted me, we saw him, and decided to buy him, no fighting with other buyers.
She has just done it again, I wasn't actually looking this time, but a friend told her about Fergie, and she took her in to try as a school horse, she wasn't good for that but she called me to come try her.
It is a lot less stressful, even for an experienced buyer, especially as I have bought some less than suitable mounts on my own in the past.
“Never attribute to malice that which can be attributed to stupidity”