This thread has taken an interesting turn!
I think if a couple splits over hobbies and spending (time OR money) then it is coincidental that it is over horses. There is usually a deeper reason (often lack of communication), but horses is an easy one to target. Squabbling over horses is just a symptom of a bigger issue. But it is a real fact, as amigo points out, that in many divorces, the last straw that is pointed to is the horse.
OP, you mention he is really afraid of horses, not just disliking them. If this is the case, be very careful about how much you push the issue! True phobias can cause a lot of anxiety. But on the flip side, if you will be having horses at your house, it would be handy to push him just enough to get him comfortable handling the horses in case of an emergency.
I agree, a very interesting turn for sure!!
Haha, guess I should watch how I word things, don't want to give the wrong impression(s)
Yes, he is more-so afraid of them than anything else. He has never mentioned he disliked them, pretty much the contrary. He grew up helping is grandfather raise cattle, so he is used to the work of livestock, the smells, etc.
He just doesn't have any interest on ever riding. Ever.
He and I are on the same page regarding finances when it comes to this hobby, land, etc. I made the (poor) joke earlier that he didn't realize we needed a trailer and I chided him asking if he thought we would just throw it in the back of the truck
Anyways, right now we are just weighing costs and whatnot. We have been married a few years, no kids, obviously when we met he knew I enjoyed this and it is something we have been discussing for quite some time-- but never really allocated any finances until recently. So, I just wanted to see if others went through anything similar!