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post #101 of 124 Old 08-11-2014, 10:55 PM
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So you are willing to risk your marrage for a "I Think I am a horsey person"?
Yeah & while you're at it, stick to the kitchen - that's what women are meant for!
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post #102 of 124 Old 08-11-2014, 11:07 PM
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Let him do what he wants. You don't have to do everything together. My DH has chosen to take riding lessons with me and to be involved with the horses, but if it wasn't for me, he'd sell the lot of 'em. I think the thing that makes it work is that I've always been ok with him doing something else. He loves golf, I encourage him to go play and always have. He's gone more and more into the horsey thing with me and less and less into golf over the years. We're on our 25th anniversary this year, so I think we've decided to work it out over the long haul.
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post #103 of 124 Old 08-11-2014, 11:43 PM
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Sorry, I skipped from pg 9......but get a Featherlite, with the fold away rear tack, draft size, have the dressing door hinged, and his Mustang WILL fit in your trailer!!! My DH could put his Corvette in ours. If you get a KiefferBuilt straight load, a Honda Valkarie motorcycle ccan ride beside your horse.

This is how we solved the dual interest household here, and we have been married 32 years!

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post #104 of 124 Old 08-12-2014, 12:45 AM
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^I like economising!
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post #105 of 124 Old 08-12-2014, 12:59 AM
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Being afraid of what could happen to me is exactly why my husband started riding, he figured if he couldn't prevent me from riding he could at least be there to make sure I "don't do anything stupid" and to get help in case something does happen. He ended up enjoying the horses though I wouldn't call him a horse person.

If you do full board it's probably not as much of a concern but if you keep your horse at home or self boarding your S/O should know how to feed at least in case you are ever laid up or you should find a pet sitter or someone who can do it on short notice.
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post #106 of 124 Old 08-12-2014, 08:47 AM
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Yeah & while you're at it, stick to the kitchen - that's what women are meant for!
Firm believer people should stick to what they are good at.
If you are good at kitchen work then do that, lots of options like school cafeterias, resteraunts, stuff like that.
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^People don't generally start out being good at anything tho - that takes learning, practice & perseverance. & you forget,(women at least) can become good at many things!
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post #108 of 124 Old 08-12-2014, 03:19 PM
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If it's something that can be overlooked, then I would suggest just doing that. Married couples share their lives together but you don't have to do EVERYTHING together. I'm definitely a horse person, but my future husband doesn't HAVE to be one too. He could want nothing to do with horses for all I care, just as long as he understands that it's important to me and just respects that. I would try asking your husband to respect your choices if this horse thing is constantly causing arguments between the two of you, and let him know that he doesn't have to be a part of it if he doesn't want to be.
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post #109 of 124 Old 08-26-2014, 05:22 PM
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My DH is SO allergic, I have to strip before entering the house…..!
Yeah, I gotta remember that allergy thing.
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post #110 of 124 Old 08-26-2014, 05:30 PM
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My husband isn't into horses, but he likes how happy it makes me so he's happy to support me in it. I suppose it helps that he's not afraid of them. We have discussed owning horses in the future, but it's clear that these will be my horses. He's not super interested in helping muck out stalls on a regular basis, though I know if I need him to he'll help haul hay, etc. he'll be there.

I think one of the things that helps with this is that my husband is a sailing nut, and I've been very supportive of him over the past few years as he has pursued his hobby. I've even learned to sail myself, despite being deathly afraid of it at first!

It's all about respect for each other. It's sad that he can't even find some enjoyment in your hobby, but I don't think that necessarily means he won't support you as you continue to enjoy it. :)
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