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post #51 of 124 Old 08-07-2014, 08:03 AM Thread Starter
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Hi, I'm happily married to a non-horse crazy guy, but then my interest in horses isn't monomanic, which really helps, and I also don't spend a lot of money competing, I just ride, because we have other important uses for money and because I already competed a fair bit in an earlier phase of my life.

I love horses but have lots of interests including reading, music, photography, cycling, hiking, climbing what mountains we have here in relatively flat Australia, and cooking and eating healthy and delicious food. I didn't ever think it was necessary to have a horse crazy husband, he's very supportive of that side of me but in a relationship it's nice to have some interests in common and others not. That way you also stretch each other a bit. So, for instance he proposed on a mountain climb and that was really cool, and he now handles horses when necessary, and I have started watching Dr Who, which I never did before. It's really nice when someone can introduce you to other interesting stuff you've not explored before.

The one time my husband sat on my current riding horse:



It was Halloween, and he'd wanted to go as a Nazgul. I told him you couldn't be a proper Nazgul without a horse, and this actually persuaded him to get on the horse's back for a few minutes for a photo. I've got to say it surprised me, because the one previous time he'd had a riding experience was on my retired (and now deceased) little mare, and afterwards he said, "That was very disagreeable, like being drunk and staggering around."

But our donkeys: They are my husband's favourite animals. He thinks they are so cool!




There are countless ways to have fun, and they include heirloom pumpkins!


LOL, I love the last picture of y'all, you two look like a fun couple!
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post #52 of 124 Old 08-07-2014, 08:18 AM
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Another thing that's worked for us....I get up super early on weekends, quietly cook breakfast, and sneak out to the barn. When he wakes up, breakfast is waiting for him in the kitchen. By the time he's done eating I'm already back. Now, this is the important part, only cook him breakfast on the days that you go to the barn. That way he associates you going to the barn with something positive.
I see you are applying your horse training techniques to your husband!
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post #53 of 124 Old 08-07-2014, 08:43 AM
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LOL, I love the last picture of y'all, you two look like a fun couple!
Thank you, that's part of our philosophy. Being best friends and co-conspirators is a large part of what makes our marriage work, plus a sense of humour and a streak of insanity.







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post #54 of 124 Old 08-07-2014, 12:07 PM
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My husband is not horse crazy at all but he does support me in my love of horses. And I do the same with his truck shows. Money wise, we agree that whatever amount he spends on his truck to "mod" it, I can spend the same amount on my horses without him saying anything. We also make time for each other's hobbies. I g with him to his truck show (which some are 600 miles away) and he will go trail riding/camping with me a few times year. After a few years of this I have found myself enjoying the truck shows and he admits that trail riding and camping are not so bad after all.
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post #55 of 124 Old 08-07-2014, 05:23 PM
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Totally OT, but is your house a straw bale house?
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post #56 of 124 Old 08-07-2014, 07:41 PM
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Yep NM, just click on the link in my signature to get to the building blog on Flickr, via an intermediate link on our website.
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post #57 of 124 Old 08-07-2014, 08:20 PM
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My ex-husband hated horses when we were married. I still bought a horse though, a buckskin Quarter Horse mare named Star. My husband never payed much attention to her, he didn't really care if we had her or not. I don't know if he was scared of her or he just didn't like horses. Try spending some time with him too, and not just your horse, so that way he won't be saying "you only spend time with the horse". My ex-husband and I divorced 4 years ago (not because of the horse though) and I have since bought 16 more horses.
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post #58 of 124 Old 08-07-2014, 11:23 PM
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Just keep trying to convince him He'll eventually get bitten by the horse bug!
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post #59 of 124 Old 08-08-2014, 08:27 AM Thread Starter
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My ex-husband hated horses when we were married. I still bought a horse though, a buckskin Quarter Horse mare named Star. My husband never payed much attention to her, he didn't really care if we had her or not. I don't know if he was scared of her or he just didn't like horses. Try spending some time with him too, and not just your horse, so that way he won't be saying "you only spend time with the horse". My ex-husband and I divorced 4 years ago (not because of the horse though) and I have since bought 16 more horses.
Wow, 16 horses in 4 years! At this rate, it'll probably be 4 years before I can buy one horse haha.
I'm taking it slow, doing my riding lessons and helping around the barn to get a lot of good experience... THEN I will put the pressure on down the road to go ahead and take the plunge and buy one. I'll probably lease through my trainer first for a while.

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post #60 of 124 Old 08-08-2014, 09:19 AM
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Just keep trying to convince him He'll eventually get bitten by the horse bug!
Not necessarily, lol. If we happen to be near the boarding barn and I stop by for a quick check, my other half will remain in the car because "it stinks" at the barn.
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