Join Date: Nov 2011
Location: Central Oregon, USA
This thread has taken an interesting turn!
I think if a couple splits over hobbies and spending (time OR money) then it is coincidental that it is over horses. There is usually a deeper reason (often lack of communication), but horses is an easy one to target. Squabbling over horses is just a symptom of a bigger issue. But it is a real fact, as amigo points out, that in many divorces, the last straw that is pointed to is the horse.
OP, you mention he is really afraid of horses, not just disliking them. If this is the case, be very careful about how much you push the issue! True phobias can cause a lot of anxiety. But on the flip side, if you will be having horses at your house, it would be handy to push him just enough to get him comfortable handling the horses in case of an emergency.