Originally Posted by Inexperienced Rider View Post
Horses don't listen to me. They keep testing. Don't walk. Keep stopping. No matter how much I kick them. But if someone they know get on them they will follow commands like a robot. My question is if horse is testing me,what are few methods to get the message across to it without being painful or hurtful. Please give me as many tips possible. Thanks.
Rather than approaching the situation from the viewpoint that horses are "testing" you, consider the fact that they may simply not understand what you want. In addition, the horses may not consider you a proper authority to be telling them what to do. The people that you mention who get a positive response from the horse have probably developed a common language with the horse that the horse understands and, also, represent a position of authority.
Some people think that a kick here or a pull there is communication which every person and every horse understand. They think that one person presenting a cue is the same as another person presenting a similar appearing cue. The problem is that they are only concentrating on one piece of information.
For example, one person is sitting in balance with a horse's center of balance, is holding the reins lightly, and moves with the horse if it starts to move after a light squeeze and release of the rider's legs. Another person may think he is doing the same thing. But he may be lifting his heels to apply pressure to the horse rather than using his lower legs. When applying this pressure, he may be leaning forward and becoming unbalanced. At the same time, he may be applying pressure with the reins. Are these two people sending the same message to the horse? I don't think the horse would understand it as the same message.
Next, consider that two riders are the same size and weight and all the things mentioned above are the same. Does this mean that the horse should be expected to respond in the same way? What about the relationship each of these riders has with the horse?
You would probably turn you vehicle to the left if a policeman directed you to do so. Would you respond as readily if a child indicated that you should do so in the same way?
If a stranger tried to guide you through an unknown passageway, would you respond in the same way as you would if a trusted friend tried to do so?
How a horse responds to a person is more complicated than many people think. The cue -- or combination of cues -- is one factor. The established -- or perceived -- relationship is another.
When trying to direct a horse, consider the situation from the horse's point of view. Get guidance from a good instructor who can help you do this. Learn various methods that people have developed that seem to work. Experiment and be willing to alter things if you do not get the response you desire.