It's hard for a lot of us. I miss Harley every day that I don't see him, but between work, kids and a house to maintain, sometimes, I just can't justify going to the barn. As long as your horse is well-cared for, you have no reason to feel bad. This time of year is not the easiest time to hang out in a cold barn. I do find that it helps if I schedule it and let my family know that I plan on going riding on specific nights. And the sun is setting just a little bit later, so sometimes I can get away from work early and sneak in some horse time before dark. Even though I have access to a well-lit indoor arena, it's so much more enjoyable to spend time there when it's not so dark and cold.