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post #1 of 11 Old 01-17-2016, 05:12 PM Thread Starter
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I feel guilty!

So I think I'm looking for some reassurance here. I have had my horse for a year now. When I first got him I went out about 4 times a week. Then I started going everyday after a while and now I have cut back to 6 times a week. This past week my schedule has been crazy busy and on top of it bad weather so I have only made it out 3 times this week. I am feeling so guilty!

Does this make me a bad horse mom?!?
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post #2 of 11 Old 01-17-2016, 05:14 PM
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3 times a week is our norm, and we don't always make it out that often. This week the weather has been cold so we only made it twice last week and probably twice this week.
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post #3 of 11 Old 01-17-2016, 05:20 PM Thread Starter
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I would also like to add that he is well taken care of when I'm not there so there is no concern about lack of food. I'm just afraid he thinks I have abandoned him!

Thanks for the reply!
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post #4 of 11 Old 01-17-2016, 05:21 PM
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It's hard for a lot of us. I miss Harley every day that I don't see him, but between work, kids and a house to maintain, sometimes, I just can't justify going to the barn. As long as your horse is well-cared for, you have no reason to feel bad. This time of year is not the easiest time to hang out in a cold barn. I do find that it helps if I schedule it and let my family know that I plan on going riding on specific nights. And the sun is setting just a little bit later, so sometimes I can get away from work early and sneak in some horse time before dark. Even though I have access to a well-lit indoor arena, it's so much more enjoyable to spend time there when it's not so dark and cold.
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post #5 of 11 Old 01-17-2016, 05:56 PM
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no need to feel guilty.... 3 times a week works too.... "absence makes the heart grow fonder".... winks...
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post #6 of 11 Old 01-17-2016, 06:04 PM
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Sorry to say, if someone is making sure he has food and water he probably never misses you!

Don't feel guilty, I make it out 2 or 3 times a week, if I'm lucky...

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post #7 of 11 Old 01-17-2016, 08:12 PM
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No, a bad horse mom would not care if her horse were taken care of. Horses mostly miss their treats, not necessarily individual people. My mare thinks I look just like a big carrot! I could pretend that she is excited to see me, but I know what she is really excited about.
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post #8 of 11 Old 01-18-2016, 04:52 AM
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I hear you. I used to make it out every day, or 5-6 times a week if I just felt overwhelmed by work and just needed to focus on that and then vegetate in my free time. I miss my horse a lot and I saw him yesterday, but we didn't get to do any real work because it was freezing, so I just brought him into the barn and groomed on him for a little. Also I'm a meanie and don't feed my horse treats. hahaha.
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post #9 of 11 Old 01-18-2016, 08:09 AM
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I'm sure he is doing just dandy without out. I see my horse everyday because I do semi rough board and the only reason she looks forward to me coming in because I let her out of her paddock.
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post #10 of 11 Old 01-18-2016, 05:32 PM
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We don't think you are a bad horse mom at all, but if your horse does and complains, you will just have to make it up to him somehow.
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