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post #11 of 24 Old 05-02-2015, 12:21 AM
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I typically have no problem make a decision, but I usually spend 1 day-2 weeks agonizing over whether I made a mistake. I did this with my dog, my horses, job changes, moving, international vacations. I don't like change and I'm very self critical.

looking back, my horses are my sanity, my dog is one of my best friends and possibly one of the best choices I've made, my last move has been good for me in several ways, my job change was a wonderful decision and I've loved every trip I've been on.

just take a deep breath, stop over thinking and learn to value every second as it comes.
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post #12 of 24 Old 05-02-2015, 10:09 PM
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Maybe you're just not as emotional as you thought you were? That's what happened to me. When I got my first horse I was happy, of course. But everybody expected me to cry, which made me feel slightly bad that I wasn't. Albeit, my horse and I did hate each other's guts for the first 6 months..
As for your loans, almost everybody on this planet is in debt. I wouldn't worry about that (:
Enjoy your new horse at your own speed. And if it turns out she isn't right for you or you just lose interest in riding, remember it's not illegal to sell her!

c'est la vie
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post #13 of 24 Old 05-03-2015, 12:37 AM
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The time to 2nd guess yourself was before you bought the check. Doing it now just steals your joy and spoils the time you have with the horse. Make up your mind to be grateful that you got such an awesome horse and think about how many would LOVE to be in your shoes and just can't be. Visualize yourself riding her on the trail and how amazing that's going to feel, how free you'll be and how much you'll improve your own riding by being able to ride your own horse whenever you want. Go build your relationship with your horse and don't let doubt steal your joy, life is too short for that.
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post #14 of 24 Old 05-03-2015, 04:35 AM
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It sounds like you have a lot on your plate!! Could you reorganize your schedule a little bit? Maybe find someone to clean for you or move you work hours back a little bit? This would give you more time to enjoy your horse!!

I'll admit, I'm kind of in the same situation myself. Just had a horse dumped on me on Decemeber. I sent her on vacation for several months while I got life on order and I'm pretty sure I went to be every night questioning my decision. Now she's back and I am committed to cleaning up after her everyday. I work nights so I usually go before work too, and I only have time to lunge, a brief walk down the road, and cleaning. Several times I've found myself thinking "maybe I rushed into this" or "what was I thinking" and "I really don't feel like cleaning", but then when *my* horse puts her head on my shoulder I melt and remember why I do it. I could be paying off my loans $600 a month faster... But I felt I owed this to myself!
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post #15 of 24 Old 05-03-2015, 09:08 AM
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After a week she's just a horse. Maybe a nice horse but just a horse. The better you get to know each other the more you will appreciate each other. They really do become pets and part of the family, just give it time since you only just met!
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post #16 of 24 Old 05-03-2015, 09:37 AM
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I think you may be overthinking your situation. Owning a horse can be a wonderful thing, but it brings with it the the obligation of caring for it 24/7 which can be expensive and time consuming. I think that side of ownership is creeping into your brain and maybe rightfully so. Just remember that every decision has a good and bad side, so focus on all the reasons you wanted a horse. Everything in life has a price and it sounds like you spent wisely.

Ride, relax and enjoy !
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post #17 of 24 Old 05-03-2015, 09:44 AM
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Aww .. it sounds like the reality was kinda anti-climactic for you .. Hang in there. Sometimes what we've built up in our heads is a fantasy that isn't realistic. Horses are a huge responsibility and lots of work, but they are worth it.

I hope things settle for you soon..


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post #18 of 24 Old 05-03-2015, 10:43 AM
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What is the interest rate on the student loan? That should be the deciding factor. If you keep her why not plan some some weekend rides and skip the rides when you have chores to do. Horses are quite ok with no being ridden. This would give you a little more free time and perhaps enjoy the weekend rides.

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post #19 of 24 Old 05-03-2015, 11:31 AM
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Sort of like buying a house and then having the realization settle in that you have to pay the property taxes and insurance, not to mention mow the grass and pull the weeds. With ownership comes work and expenses...and time.
The giddy first thrill passes quickly. What you need to decide is the extra work, time and expense worth it to you at this point. Having a horse should be a pleasure. For many of us here it's an important part of our lives, and sacrifices have been made in order to do that. But there is a time and place for everything. Only you can decide if this is the time for you.
Best wishes.
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post #20 of 24 Old 05-03-2015, 12:17 PM
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It sounds like we are living somewhat parallel lives. I work full time, do barn chores in exchange for a cut off board and have student loans I am paying off. Yes, not having a horse would give me more money to put to student loans. It would also mean that after work I would sit at home and watch television. I hate living in debt it really bothers me. I can live without the horse and be miserable and a shut in but pay of my loans quickly or I can enjoy my life, ride with people at the barn and pay off my loans more slowly.

I really like my horse but when I started riding him four years ago, I thought he was the biggest ******* on the planet. He was put on earth just to frustrate me and frighten me. I could not wait to put some miles on him and sell him. Well, something happened during those miles I was putting on him, he grew on me. I say get out on the trail. If the arena is boring go for a walk find each others buttons and see some beautiful scenery. If your horse likes to run go race your shadows for a little while.
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