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post #21 of 38 Old 06-04-2014, 10:08 AM
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Maybe your grandmother could talk her friends into moving too? Good luck!
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post #22 of 38 Old 06-04-2014, 12:19 PM
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You are paying an insane amount of money for the service that is given, let alone the fact that your horse is ridden without your permission.

You can try having your grandpa talk to the BO. He is paying for a service that is not being given. He is spending those money, money he earned and didn't appear out of thin air, so either he or you need to tell the BO that it is unreasonable to pay that much and have the poor treatment your horse is receiving.

I don't buy the "it's hot, maybe the horse drank all the water". If you are managing a barn, it is your duty to check how often the water buckets need to be filled, if this woman is spending all day playing grandma and ignoring the horses, then she doesn't deserve your money.
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post #23 of 38 Old 06-04-2014, 02:19 PM
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OP, are you old enough to get a job?
If so, then you need to work on paying for your horse on your own so that you can truly have complete control of your horses care.
Until then it sounds like you are caught between a rock and a hard place as Grandma is unwilling to budge.
Let the BO know that if she uses your horse for lessons behind your back that you will press charges against her as what she is doing is stealing from you. Do not padlock the stall as one person suggested as this can get you into trouble as it is a safety hazard.
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Is the the 17hh Thoroughbred cryptorchid horse you mentioned having agressive problems with in an earlier thread?

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post #25 of 38 Old 06-04-2014, 10:17 PM Thread Starter
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There is around 30 other boarders there, and I've informed most of them even though a lot of them already knew because apparently their horses are being treated the same. Around 15 of them are expecting to move elsewhere next month. Many of them gave the barn owner permission to use their horses when they're not able to get there, but I certainly didn't. I''m always there until at least 6 pm, so I make sure he is fed. I am waiting until I can be alone with my grandma so I can try to have a very serious discussion with her about this. I hope I can convince her to let me move, because my horse was in an extremely abusive situation before I got him and I would hate for that to happen again, and will not allow it. Yes, this is the same horse, and I'm beginning to suspect that his earlier behavior was stemming from this also. He no longer behaves in such a way, but there's always the chance it could happen again. I can only imagine that part of that behavior is because he's unhappy there. I want to get him out ASAP. I'm only 13, so I can't exactly make enough money to pay for a different stable on my own.
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post #26 of 38 Old 06-05-2014, 12:17 PM
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I suggest that if no one will change your situation because the horse is being improperly taken care of that you sell your horse. No water is abuse.
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post #27 of 38 Old 06-05-2014, 04:56 PM
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if you have to stay there, go get a large barrel for water , trash can , whatever you can find that has not had anything toxic in it, get at least 50 gallon size, this way you can fill up and now he has around 2 days worth of water. I dont like Buckets for water troughs. Thats like giving someone a glass of water and saying it has to last a day .
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post #28 of 38 Old 06-05-2014, 05:47 PM
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Well, if Grandma won't let you move, you may have to get kicked out. How you choose to do that is your choice, and I'll admit that it doesn't sound like a good idea. But if you did it right, you might swing it okay.

Another way would be to put a nail between your Grandma's friendship with the barn buddy. Tell her some hateful lie or something about what the barn buddy said behind her back. (I feel awful even typing this, but if it were my horse, I'd do ANYTHING to get him/her out of there!) Grandma may not believe you at first, but Grandma sounds a bit selfish and needs a swift kick in the rear, from the sound of it. Eventually Grandma will probably resent the barn buddy, and will support your decision to move.

These are low-ball tactics, of course. But if you really want to move your horse, you'll find some way to get her to agree to it.
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post #29 of 38 Old 06-05-2014, 06:36 PM Thread Starter
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I've been trying for a while to get kicked out. I did put a big muck bucket on the floor in his stall with water. Luckily, he was out today. "Barn buddy" is moving now, so are we. Yay!
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post #30 of 38 Old 06-05-2014, 06:44 PM
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Find out if the barn buddy is considering moving and if she is try to work on getting a place together for both horses. Grandpa may have to talk to Grandma, he's had years of practice, he may know how to approach her the best way. Horse without water is dangerous. Dirty stalls aren't nice either but the water issue would be the dealbreaker for me. As for people riding my horse without my permission, that is an issue of trust that the BO broke when she allowed people to ride your horse, would never be able to trust her again after that. Does your grandma know this is a potential liability issue? Definitely ask barn buddy about moving together but have a respectfull talk with Grandpa and Grandma, explaining that if the horse gets sick or hurt, the Vet bills can be huge, and that the way he is being cared for (uncared for) could cause that to happen. They sound like they care about you too, explain how this whole situation is making you feel and how worried you are. Good luck.
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