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post #31 of 38 Old 06-05-2014, 06:58 PM Thread Starter
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Luckily, since her barn buddy decided to switch barns, it was a lot easier to talk her into it. We are expecting to move sometime around June 20th.
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post #32 of 38 Old 06-06-2014, 05:21 PM
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So, I've recently made quite the interesting (and infuriating) discovery. I've found out what the BO has been up to, and it's nothing a BO should be doing. My family pays $375/month to board my horse there.

She has been allowing young children with barely any skills to ride my horse for lessons while I'm not around. I asked her very nicely when I first began boarding my horse there to not allow anyone else on my horse, even though that was close to 7 years ago.

I went there today to ride and walked into my horse's stall. It was a disaster, and I had to clean it. We pay to have his stall cleaned daily. It looked as if it hadn't been done since Sunday when I last visited. Since it gets hot in the summer, I put two water buckets in his stall. Both were empty and it was 3 p.m. The horses are supposed to be fed and watered at 9 am. It was pretty hot and nasty today, and the horses weren't turned out because the pasture was muddy. Every single horse in the barn has a fan in their stall, and none of them were on. It was close to 90 today and it was really humid.

The BO recently got a new grandchild, and is babysitting for her kids during the day. She is completely and totally focused on her grandchild and not on the needs of the horses there. To tell the truth, I absolutely hate this place. Not even the place itself, but the way it's being run. It is a very nice stables, but the BO is getting extremely lazy and not taking care of my horse. I can only be there 5 days a week, so I can't be taking care of him totally.

My grandfather is willing to pay to move my horse to another stable because he understands the issue, it's wasting his money, and we're being taken advantage of. Then there's my grandmother... She's the one who takes me there to ride because my grandpa is working and doesn't have the time. She is friends with a girl's mother there and doesn't want to leave because she won't see her barn buddy. I told her I hate it there, and that it's ridiculous that I have to worry about whether my horse has water and food or not. She is totally unfocused on that. She only cares about the fact that she'll only get to see her barn buddy once a week.

I want to leave so badly, but at the same time, I'm hoping I don't have to because I've been taking lessons there for 9 years. How could I explain this from my point of view to the BO and not sound like a total jerk?
I'd be nasty and to the point: I pay you 375 a month to do things for my horse in a timely manner. I know that you've been letting children ride my horse for lessons which I told you never to do. I've come to ride to find that my horse had NO WATER! How could you? How dare you take my 375 a month and fail to do the work you agreed to!
*walks away with horse to trailer to new Barn*
The End
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post #33 of 38 Old 06-07-2014, 11:56 PM
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I have moved barns several times and never wanted to be nasty esp. while my horse was still in their care...ive heard horror stories and it isnt worth risking their well being...tho im with you it can be tempting to want to just lash out...but i never never would while they had any ability to hurt or confiscate my horses...found it doesnt do anything in the end to be nasty anyways...assertive yeah but nasty no...but fun sometimes to imagine it in my head :)
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post #34 of 38 Old 06-08-2014, 01:03 PM
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Apologies in advance, I haven't read every reply but I had an idea about this one. Make her this offer:

1. Tell her that you understand that having a new grandchild is 24/7 and that she's overwhelmed.

2. Offer to pay her a self-care rate of $100/mo. You do all the feeding and cleaning yourself, and she can rest assured that it's taken care of. You're just paying for the space, not the care.

3. If someone is making money teaching on your horse, then rent them your horse - and charge them 50% of their lesson rate. If they charge $45/hr for a group lesson, charge them $22.50. You keep your horse tuned up periodically, and your horse gets experience carrying children around which will increase his value.

4. Check out the website wyominghorses.com. They lease horses all over the country and their feeding and care contract is excellent. Get a contract written up like this and make these instructors that are using your horse sign it. Stipulating among other things that for instance, if any saddle sores appear on your horse there's a $500 fee attached. This will help protect your horse's welfare and prevent him being over-used.

5. If they say no, then just say that it's not working out for you and move out. You don't have to give all the reasons why and it's probably better not to unless pressed for it. I only say that because I've seen other people leave barns after registering a lot of complaints about the care, and after they're gone they're sh*t-talked mercilessly. Which isn't the end of the world, but isn't it better to just not?
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post #35 of 38 Old 06-08-2014, 01:14 PM
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Edit: Just noticed that you said you can only provide care 5 days/week. Maybe co-op with other boarders? Esp. if everyone is having the same lack-of-care problem.
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post #36 of 38 Old 06-12-2014, 03:21 PM
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my daughter will be 13 in 2 months

i would never let her dictate how things will be -- and if she attempted to do so, i would wear her hind end out ricky-tick --- and if she was disrespecting my parents, or her wifes parents, that punishment would be twice as bad

If i found out she was behaving badly in an attempt to circumvent my expectations (trying to get kicked out of a barn) she would find herself with a sore back-end and no horse


you have concerns and you feel your horse is mistreated -- express those concerns in a mature fashion, it will get you a lot further than throwing fits and sabotaging yourself
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post #37 of 38 Old 06-12-2014, 03:55 PM
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my daughter will be 13 in 2 months

i would never let her dictate how things will be -- and if she attempted to do so, i would wear her hind end out ricky-tick --- and if she was disrespecting my parents, or her wifes parents, that punishment would be twice as bad

If i found out she was behaving badly in an attempt to circumvent my expectations (trying to get kicked out of a barn) she would find herself with a sore back-end and no horse


you have concerns and you feel your horse is mistreated -- express those concerns in a mature fashion, it will get you a lot further than throwing fits and sabotaging yourself

THIS!!

I don't think you are handling the situation the best way you can. I think you will probably find something wrong with every barn you board at, because from the sounds of it, nothing is ever your fault. If I were your caretaker (grandma, grandpa, mom or dad or whatever) I would teach you a lesson in respect. Trying to get kicked out of a place that your grandfather is paying good money for? Maybe you should start a babysitting or lawn mowing and raking job, so you can start paying for board yourself. You might have more respect and understanding for the situation if you realized how much energy it takes to make sure the money is available to even spend on a horse.
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post #38 of 38 Old 06-14-2014, 04:02 AM
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Congrats on getting out of what sounds like a horrible situation.
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