I have stopped getting irritated with my mares pulling - Page 2 - The Horse Forum
 60Likes
Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
post #11 of 15 Old 10-04-2016, 01:20 PM
Foal
 
Join Date: Oct 2016
Posts: 87
• Horses: 0
great advice and thread. thanks!!
Capparouge is offline  
post #12 of 15 Old 10-05-2016, 07:39 AM
Green Broke
 
Join Date: Apr 2015
Location: Northern Florida
Posts: 4,850
• Horses: 4
Amen!! I think that this is something that pretty much everyone has gone through at one point or another and some probably don't get past it. I feel that I demanded a little more from my first horse than she was ready to give. Now I'm happy that they behave and they actually give more because of that.

As for that first horse, at 26 years old, she now happily spends her days munching on grass and hay and gets to do nothing or something as she pleases.

There will be only one of you for all time. Fearlessly be yourself.
Coffee is my spirit animal
LoriF is offline  
post #13 of 15 Old 10-05-2016, 10:10 AM
Green Broke
 
Join Date: Jul 2014
Location: Huntsville, AL
Posts: 4,310
• Horses: 3
The colt I'm working with right now wants, very much, to do as I ask. Whenever I find myself getting frustrated because he's NOT doing what I want, I have to stop and step back, let us both take a few deep breaths. And then I usually realize the reason he's not doing something is because I haven't figured out the right way to ask him.

My mare, on the other hand, knows pretty much everything she needs to know. She's also very opinionated about what she's willing to do/give. I can take her on the toughest trails or along a busy highway and she's a champ. Work her on the flat and she's likely to toss in a buck or two to let me know she's bored.

Courage is taking just one more step...
Change is online now  
post #14 of 15 Old 10-05-2016, 11:33 AM
Administrator
 
Join Date: May 2012
Location: CT USA an English transplant
Posts: 33,841
• Horses: 3
Quite often we create barn sour horses by putting too much pressure on them, asking for too much too soon or just too much so instead of arena work or riding away from the barn being a pleasure for them as well it becomes a miserable chore, a situation where they feel anxious, tense, overwhelmed so they just want to get the heck out of there and back to where they feel safe and secure
If you take a step back sometimes you can find yourself a lot further forward in a few weeks from there just by slowing it all down than if you continue with the intensity.
It all comes back down to making the right thing easy from the start then hopefully you never have to deal with 'making the wrong thing hard'
If a child finds school a pleasure and is encouraged to feel good about their achievements no matter how small they seem to be they'll enjoy being there - horse's are not that much different

Just winging it is not a plan
jaydee is offline  
post #15 of 15 Old 10-05-2016, 06:28 PM Thread Starter
Yearling
 
Join Date: May 2014
Posts: 1,278
• Horses: 0
Quote:
Originally Posted by jaydee View Post
Quite often we create barn sour horses by putting too much pressure on them, asking for too much too soon or just too much so instead of arena work or riding away from the barn being a pleasure for them as well it becomes a miserable chore, a situation where they feel anxious, tense, overwhelmed so they just want to get the heck out of there and back to where they feel safe and secure
If you take a step back sometimes you can find yourself a lot further forward in a few weeks from there just by slowing it all down than if you continue with the intensity.
It all comes back down to making the right thing easy from the start then hopefully you never have to deal with 'making the wrong thing hard'
If a child finds school a pleasure and is encouraged to feel good about their achievements no matter how small they seem to be they'll enjoy being there - horse's are not that much different
If I had to reduce the pressure on my little monkey, I would have to stop riding and just feed her carrots all day long :)

We are currently lunging for about 10 minutes (with lots of walking) and only riding for about a half an hour, walk and a little bit of trotting. All on loose reign. Basically, I would call this a light warm up, not a lesson :)

I don't think she has quite settled yet, I got her in March and she has been improving, albeit veeeeeerrryyy slowly. Never mind, I still enjoy it.
Captain Evil and jaydee like this.
Horsef is offline  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Options

Register Now



In order to be able to post messages on the The Horse Forum forums, you must first register.

Already have a Horse Forum account?
Members are allowed only one account per person at the Horse Forum, so if you've made an account here in the past you'll need to continue using that account. Please do not create a new account or you may lose access to the Horse Forum. If you need help recovering your existing account, please Contact Us. We'll be glad to help!

New to the Horse Forum?
Please choose a username you will be satisfied with using for the duration of your membership at the Horse Forum. We do not change members' usernames upon request because that would make it difficult for everyone to keep track of who is who on the forum. For that reason, please do not incorporate your horse's name into your username so that you are not stuck with a username related to a horse you may no longer have some day, or use any other username you may no longer identify with or care for in the future.



User Name:
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.

Password:


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:
OR

Log-in









Old Thread Warning
This thread is more than 90 days old. When a thread is this old, it is often better to start a new thread rather than post to it. However, If you feel you have something of value to add to this particular thread, you can do so by checking the box below before submitting your post.

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page



Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Irritated... Winterose Horse Talk 6 11-10-2013 08:05 PM
Extremely irritated! Equilove Horse Talk 12 08-17-2011 11:15 PM
I am very Irritated Tayz Horse Riding & Horse Activity 16 07-18-2009 08:21 PM
Very Irritated NoFear526 Horse Talk 4 05-04-2009 12:57 PM

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

 
For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome