Join Date: May 2013
Location: Central Florida
• Horses: 0
I got my first horse at 57 and people are always telling me how much they admire me for jumping into riding and ownership at that age. I'm always like 'huh??? wha???", but just thought I'd pass that along and let you know that *apparently* a lot of folks think that folks like us are special, brave, ??...LOL
Sorry to hear that you're not especially enjoying your journey in horsemanship. I agree with all that's already been said. However, I'm wondering how indepth your weekly lessons have been...as in were they riding only? Have you had any lessons on groundwork and handling ? Still NOT saying you should keep her, it's perfectly fine, imho to let her go and get a more settled , less opinionated horse! Just saying that if you feel she IS your heart horse, there may yet be hope for you/her. You would have to decide if you want to devote the time & $$ to further your experience or start over with a more suited horse. Nothing wrong with either choice !
if, IF you wanted to keep her, and IF you havent already done some studying with Parelli, Anderson, Cox, etc. methods , it might be something to consider. From what you say, I wonder, again, if your trainer only worked on riding and also if he/she had a strong background in natural horsemanship.
How long it would take to develop her into a partner you can feel confident with, is ...well...up to her, so you have to think about how much more time you're willing to invest in her, or not.
BTW, assuming you are in good general health, you /we (I'm 64) have a lot of good riding years left in us!
Also, for what it's worth, I can so relate to your story. My Sonny is an opinonated, strong willed, oppositionally inclined Arab. I've left the barn near tears thinking he was way too much horse for me, many,many times. Sonny is 21 this year, and thru Natural Horsemanship (I'm a Parelli student), we have come s o far. Got a ways to go, but we have come a long way. He was 15 to 16 when I realized how far over my head I was, so thats a significant difference in your situation. I was afraid if I let him go, he'd be passed along and end up with a bad outcome. I would have been more willing to let him go if he were the age of your horse and I'd have more confidence of someone being willing to work him thru the problems. Again, let me stress, nothing AT ALL wrong with you letting her go and finding a calmer horse!!
Anyhow, I admire you for jumping into horsemanship at 55 and for seeking the best answer for you and her at this time.
Keep us posted!
Be as soft as possible, but as firm as necessary--Pat Parelli