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post #21 of 43 Old 02-10-2015, 09:36 PM
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If you need to rehome her, and I think you should, do it sooner than later. the younger she is, the easier it will be to sell her. get going, and then be sure that you take a very sensible, knowledgable friend with you when you go horse shopping next time!

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post #22 of 43 Old 02-10-2015, 10:23 PM
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You have absolutely nothing to feel bad about. Rehome your horse and find a more suitable one. It's even ok if you decide horses aren't for you at all.

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post #23 of 43 Old 02-10-2015, 10:55 PM Thread Starter
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thank you, again!

I am moved to tears (again!) by all of your responses. it's amazing to me that so many people who don't even know me would take the time to give me such encouragement and wonderful advice. What a special group you all are! Thank you so much, everyone.
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post #24 of 43 Old 02-11-2015, 02:31 AM
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OP, Glad you think this is a not so bad place!
Most think the same.

It can be hard for some trainers to be honest to their pupils. A horse they might have and is perfect for them they can genuinely think would be ideal for you.
What they fail to test is riding the horse as you would for several days to see what advantage it might take of a less experienced/confidences rider.

I was often asked to go sort out problems with a horse balking. I could get on that animal amd it wouldn't try a thing. What I learned to do was to not correct the little things I normally would in the stables, to allow it to walk out the door before being invited, move when I mounted and then I would sit on it like a right numpty, let it amble along even snatching grass and the whole time getting myself to think it was going to mess around.
It worked. The horse would go so far and then try it on. I would be ready, it would get a quick and hard correction, amd we would go on with me riding like a numpty.
This taught the horse that just because someone wasn't a strong roder never gave it the right to take advantage.

I say that problems in the saddle more often than not stem from on the ground problems. The fact the mare kicked out at you in the field shows she has little to no respect for you.
You need to learn how to deal with the little on the ground things.
You will find a lot on ground work in Training section. Most of this is getting a horse to respect your space. I go further than that and start in the stable.
A horse has to stand untied where I tell it. Usually at the back of the stable. If it takes a step forward it is pushed back to where it was.
If I open the stable door it still has to stand and wait for me to tell it to move.
When I enter a stable I expect the horse to move back to give me room. These are two very simple things, it doesn't take a lot to get them obedient to this and because these two little things are corrected rarely do they try much on when outside.

Good luck to you!
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post #25 of 43 Old 02-11-2015, 03:35 AM
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I'll add in with all those that say sell.

Horses are supposed to be enjoyed, not a chore.

She may have your number, but there is no shame in saying that. There are different riders for different horses.

Your trainer may be trying to keep you smiling, but this horse sounds like she has become dangerous. Sell her, give her away.. whatever you can. Even as a pasture pet, she has no respect and is going to cause an accident.

There are plenty of good, steady horses out there.
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post #26 of 43 Old 02-11-2015, 04:39 AM
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You will not be happy keeping her. You need a horse that makes you happy. Perhaps you can even find a trade, someone who wants a spunkier horse for a calmer horse. At this stage in life , it is to easy to get hurt. I have ten horses, I am lucky that i can keep them.
You will be so much happier with a horse that you can ride and trust . it makes all the difference in the world.
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post #27 of 43 Old 02-11-2015, 04:43 AM
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OH it's obvious that you love horses soo much :) same here :)
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post #28 of 43 Old 02-11-2015, 09:25 AM
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The advice I've given friends in similar situations is that we spend too much time, money, and energy (both emotional and physical) on a horse for the situation to not be enjoyable. (Obviously there is a difference between a non-enjoyable short term situation like rehabbing an injury rather than a long term situation like you describe).

Can you put the mare in full time training with a trainer for any period of time? Even 30-60 days might help her become more prepared for sale. You might want to consider a different trainer than the one you currently use if your current trainer cannot be supportive of your plan to sell her. As long as you advertise her appropriately (make it clear she is not a horse for a novice) there is absolutely nothing wrong with moving her on to a home more well suited to her and looking for a horse that would be a better match for you.
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post #29 of 43 Old 02-11-2015, 11:10 AM
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I think you've absolutely made the right decision, OP. :) The bottom line is that this horse isn't for you right now, and this hobby is way too expensive and challenging not to enjoy. Find a new home for your mare, then consider getting something a bit more broke for your own purposes. Good luck !

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post #30 of 43 Old 02-11-2015, 11:17 AM
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Another think about is your health. Why risk an injury? You have a much greater chance of becoming injured and not bouncing back. It could end your riding career for good!
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One good kick could end a lot of things for good!
Move her on and get a well broke horse you can enjoy and be confident with.

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