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post #41 of 59 Old 11-29-2016, 05:40 PM
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Drop your lessons down to once a week (some training is probably good for both you and your horse) and spend the other 4 days doing what you want.
I totally agree with this advice for sure.

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post #42 of 59 Old 12-01-2016, 04:16 AM
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^ I vote for this as well. Enjoy your horse :)
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post #43 of 59 Old 12-02-2016, 04:51 AM
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I rode by myself today and it was perfect. My mare was bending, chewing the bit, not rushing... I loved it. There was no wiggling, head-tossing and leaning on the bit. It seems that I either don't like what she is teaching or I don't understand what she is telling me. Or we have a personality conflict.

Whichever it is, it's not working. My mare responded nicely to aids which I was thought by my previous instructor. The aids this instructor is teaching either don't work all that well or I'm totally misunderstanding what I'm supposed to be doing. I need to think very hard about changing barns - which is very difficult where I live.

Thank you everyone for helping me think this through. I used to love lessons with my previous instructor. This instructor gets both me and my horse irritable and disjointed.

It sounds like you have it figured out that you and the instructor just don't click. It sounds like the 5 days a week is burning out your love for the sport as well! Both combined would make anyone frustrated. I like your idea of dropping to one a week. If you don't want to get into why, you could just say you have a lot going on and your schedule may be changing. And on that note let her know you love riding but this next year will be very busy and your goals are more relaxed for the time being. Then be honest and let her know that you'd be okay not doing shows for the time being but when you are ready again you will let her know!

I'm one of those people who is only able to do 1 lesson a week and I would love it if I could do it 5 days a week! But my goals are very different, I want to begin showing and I'm still learning the basics. There have been times when I've been canceled on and I get really upset since it's my once chance to ride and build off from the last week. So I told my instructor my goals and now if I am canceled on, she will offer me another time or day that week. If you don't feel hardcore about it anymore, that will also have the positive impact of freeing up times for other riders to get more lessons. You just never know, there might be others waiting for the chance for more times to open up. So don't feel bad about it! and don't let the instructor make you feel bad about it either, if they're as dedicated as they sound I'm sure they fill the slots quickly!
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post #44 of 59 Old 12-02-2016, 08:50 AM
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Forget the lessons, enjoy your horse.
If you do not notice the difference, all that supposedly much better is nonsense !
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post #45 of 59 Old 12-02-2016, 09:57 AM
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I just wish I had the spare money you spend on lessons!
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post #46 of 59 Old 12-03-2016, 01:32 AM
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I get you. I quit lessons after i spent six months trying to improvement my seat- and only succeeding in becoming nervous and completely unseated on the demon mare I was told to ride.

I quit.

I now spend my days leasurely riding my green three year old, my nerves are better, my seat is improved tenfold, I'm not worried about my belly sticking out, leaning forward and looking pretty. I can RIDE now. I have a good independent seat, a happy horse who's learning at a good rate, clear signals. In my lessons I was self conscious, stiff, trying too hard and my riding was terrible. I soaked up what I could and started practicing by myself, and I found I learned much more without someone watching me.

I did however, soak up what my trainer said like a sponge. I was always asking "why?" It got to the point she would laugh and say "because it's correct!" I admit, I ride with a chair seat, but I do so because thats how I'm comfortable in the saddle, and it gives me independent legs, hands and seat!
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post #47 of 59 Old 12-03-2016, 01:17 PM
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One good thing -- I bet you have great legs from all those lessons.

I would take one lesson a week at the most.

I trail ride and I have a blast with it. Have fun. That's the point.

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This is like magic, I rode on my own again today and she was a hundred times better than in lessons. It is most probably me, my instructor gets me irritated with her constant corrections and praise when nothing much changes in the way my mare is going and my mare feels it and puts up a fight. I guess this cements my decision, off to look for a new barn :/

I really want and need to take lessons and this isn't working to out. I'll be more sensible in the new barn, one or two lessons a week.

Thank you all for your advice.
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post #49 of 59 Old 12-03-2016, 11:50 PM
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I didn't read through all of the comments, so I apologize if this has already been suggested. Yes, I agree, five is way too much. My ideal is 2 a week with a few independent rides. I am in the same boat as an adult rider - my goals are husbandry, confidence, knowledge, no bad habits, ENJOYMENT. I do it for me, as do you. That being said, have you considered groundwork lessons? Husbandry lessons? Not all riding lessons. I asked my trainer and she was all for it. One day we spent over an hour on proper saddle and tack fitting. I learned so much! Same thing with groundwork and general barn stuff. Husbandry is big for me. Learning about illness, health, lameness, what to look for, etc. It all has added so much to my overall "horse" confidence. Five riding lessons a week would be a huge burnout, but whenever I can afford and schedule more than 2 lessons a week, I almost always ask for something like that. Good luck!
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post #50 of 59 Old 12-04-2016, 01:05 AM
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This is like magic, I rode on my own again today and she was a hundred times better than in lessons. It is most probably me, my instructor gets me irritated with her constant corrections and praise when nothing much changes in the way my mare is going and my mare feels it and puts up a fight. I guess this cements my decision, off to look for a new barn :/

I really want and need to take lessons and this isn't working to out. I'll be more sensible in the new barn, one or two lessons a week.

Thank you all for your advice.
Surely they don't demand you take those 5 lessons a week, do they?
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