Thank you all for the kind responses.
First, by saying you taught a number of disciplines over the years, I assume that they were not horse disciplines, or are you having fun, pulling a leg here???
Sorry, had to ask. If you truly are new to horses, then sorry, and I will try to be serious also-and yes, welcome to the forum!
Your question is understandable. I am new here and was unclear. That is not to say that my sense of humor will not raise it's head often...but yes, I am new to horses.
By disciplines I was referring to other skills. For instance, I have taught chess in the public schools for a spell. Too, I was a professional poker player for twenty-four years who opened a poker school in Las Vegas many years ago. Trying to teach someone what cards to play after they have decided that some abominable hand is lucky for them is a great deal harder than teaching someone what cards to play who has no idea.
You have heard the saying that ignorance is bliss, and you are lucky that the horse never ridden before, also was very' forgiving'
Yes, you have no bad habits to un learn, which is great, but you can also get hurt by completely just trusting the forgiving nature of a horse, without that horse or you having any idea of mutual basic understanding or any cues, ect
I've given my response to this some significant thought in an attempt to not come across arrogant...I hope I'm successful, but please forgive me if I fail. Arrogance is not what I am going for here...
My education in body language probably began as a young child. Learning when to duck and run before the abuse began was a life saving skill and there's very little that motivates better than fear of death. The military came next and reading the signs that animals gave often alerted one to the presence of people who wanted to kill you before you saw them. Another great motivator to become proficient at reading body language.
Twenty-four years as a poker player honed my body language skills further, and that section of a book I wrote got me invitations to speak to both the FBI and the American Psychiatric Association. I am also Native American; still speak my native language and was taught and learned that dumb animals are not dumb from my earliest childhood.
If I must place a label on myself, then I am Buddhist. I mention this only because if our religion has an overriding principle, it is likely to be 'pay attention'. So, as a whole, my ability to read and understand body language is probably fairly considered to be world class. I said all that to say this:
I believe I did have a basic understanding with the horse.
You will also learn bad habits, if you don't take some sort of basic instructions, thus needing to 'un learn them, once you become serious about riding.
*nods* *nods* and more *nods*
I'll be frank here. I chose to come here rather than find a real life instructor because I can ignore things here that will be troublesome to ignore with an instructor standing next to me. For instance, we have a full time trainer here on the ranch (who mostly works with the show horses) but has given me a list of things I need to smack the horses for doing. It's a short list, but it's not going to happen. I will not hurt anything on purpose. If hitting a horse is ever required, then I simply will abandon my interest. I want no part of what I perceive to be violence.
I'm sure there might be other trainers who would not advocate such methods, but there is the political aspect of finding a coach or trainer off the ranch.
I am happy that you and your wife achieved your dream or working with horses
It's my wife's dream actually, but she is my dream. Been that way for thirty years and her dreams have a way of becoming mine.
Thank you - and everyone for all your responses!