Learning to stand up for yourself as a beginner
After a few years of being tossed off regularly and a lot od very traumatic situations, I finally found my spine - not in the least due to this forum.
So, my current position is that I will stop all riding if I feel that the situation is unsafe, regardless of what my instructor thinks. Before I signed up with her I told her that. She made some noises about me disrupting the group lessons but I shut that down by saying that I am sure she was a professional who would never put her students in danger so it will not be a problem.
Anyhow, one such occasion presented itself a few days ago. We had a group lesson and she paired a very inexperienced rider with a very large, very witchy mare which we all know to be very difficult. I walked into the arena, saw the situation and walked right out without saying anything. I could see she was very angry with me but I refuse to be pushed into dangerous situations any more.
Well, not five minutes later the mare loses it, the inexperienced rider cannot control her and they go on a rampage. She kicked every single horse in the arena. At least twice. Yup.
After the ďlessonĒ ended, my instructor was visibly teed off with me, but really couldnít say anything because I was right.
Disclaimer: I am not planning a career in the horse world. I am not planning on competing. I donít need to know how to handle a dangerous horse or a warm up arena. Iím just riding for pleasure. People who want to go higher need to be able to handle a situation like this but I really donít think beginners and novices should be exposed to this.