Leaving my Mare for the First Time - The Horse Forum
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post #1 of 9 Old 11-16-2018, 11:24 AM Thread Starter
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Unhappy Leaving my Mare for the First Time

I have recently gotten my first horse and I am about to go on vacation for 5 days. I will be having a close friend that is very familiar with horses take care of her every day while I am gone. I am very anxious to leave my girl, not because my friend is incapable, but because I have never left her longer than overnight. I know my friend will do a good job taking care of her, but I am still nervous. Has anyone left their horse and come back to something horribly wrong?
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post #2 of 9 Old 11-16-2018, 01:09 PM
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It's totally normal to worry, my horse is practically my child! I will be leaving her for over a week in February while I'm on vacation. I've already thought about how worrisome & hard it'll be, but then I remember I am getting away from it all (even though I wish I could take my horse with me! lol) & she will be in good hands. :) THAT is what matters, who will be taking care of her while I'm away.

So, it's good you're leaving her with a close friend. This way I'm sure she would contact you immediately if something were to go wrong. The 5 days will go by fast, hopefully she will send you photos and videos of her while you are away. :) That will help. Plus, her being in good hands will give you a peace of mind.

My situation right now is a little different. My horse is away at my trainer's & I cannot see her every night (like I would if she was at my private barn). For almost a month I could ONLY see her on weekends. My boyfriend helped feed my barnmate's horses so now I can go see her a few times during the week too.

BUT, gosh, it was hard! Not the same as being totally away on vaca, but still, going from seeing your horse every single day...to not, is not easy!

Try to enjoy your vacation though Your horse will be so happy to see you when you get back...they do say absence can make the heart grow fonder, right?!
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post #3 of 9 Old 11-16-2018, 01:38 PM
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I know how it is to be a worrier! My daughter's horse was lame with an apparent stone bruise for two weeks, and at one point it got so bad she was put into a stall. She had never been stalled before and HATED it! The first morning she was in there, I went to take care of her and she was pacing and anxious; it was heartbreaking! I couldn't sleep that night, but when I did I just had bad dreams about her hurting herself worse, or colicking, casting herself, etc. The NEXT morning I went out to see her and while she was very happy to see me, she was no longer anxious and had settled in well.

This isn't quite the same thing, but the point is that I know how easy it is to get worked up and worried when you are not with your horse, but 99.9999999999% of the time everything will be fine, and even if something does go wrong it will almost certainly be just a minor thing that you can easily fix when you get back. Enjoy your trip! She will be fine! Maybe bring her back a special souvenir, like some fresh apples or cookies or something. She'll be happy to see you!
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post #4 of 9 Old 11-16-2018, 01:39 PM
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Don't look for disasters. If your horse is a reasonable soul and your friend is capable trust her to do the job. Staying home is no guarantee that something unpleasant will never happen. Leave a letter of permission for treatment by a vet and notify your vet clinic that you will be out of town, just in case of an emergency. Notify your neighbors (hopefully they are trustworthy) and ask them to call your friend if they see anything out of the ordinary.
And, know this, you are not alone. For many of us there is always some concern when we have to leave the kids in the care of others.

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post #5 of 9 Old 11-16-2018, 01:40 PM
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Here is what went horribly wrong one time when I left my horses: I had next door neighbors who were friendly and nice. The two teen daughters were to take care of my horses. I had 3 horses in separate pens. They were to shovel the pens daily, feed, and water. I was in Russia, but I knew the family well, so I didn't worry much.

When I got home, everything looked GREAT. The horses were sleek and happy, all was perfect. A day or two later, I got a visit from Animal Control. The woman was super rude to me, saying I hadn't been taking care of my horses. She threatened to confiscate them! It was terrible, and I had no idea why Animal Control was at my house! I keep my place beautifully and my horses are heathy and sound. I found out that someone lodged a complaint because the teen girls did not shovel the pens for 3 weeks. They did all the shoveling the day before we were due to come home!

Animal Control made a second visit and that rude woman (different, but just as rude) said, "Well, they LOOK like they have water." How can you fake horses having water??? Either they have water or they don't! I am fairly certain the teen girls made sure the horses were fed and had plenty of water. There is no way the complaining person could have seen back into my place. Plus the horses all looked great when I got home. Those Animal Control people assumed that I was an incompetent idiot and it was really unpleasant.

But my horses were fine--they survived having dirty pens--and I'm sure yours will be also!
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post #6 of 9 Old 11-16-2018, 02:31 PM Thread Starter
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My mare is a very calm sweet girl and I'm sure she won't do anything stupid. My friend has her own horses as well, and will be coming over the day before we leave so I can run her through the medicine regimen. I will also leave clear instructions and will call my vet to let them know that I will be out of town. I am not concerned about her not being cared for or anything, but there are ways she could get hurt even in her paddock. It is a fairly rundown area she is in which concerns me anyway. I have never done this before and I am terribly worried that something will happen...
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post #7 of 9 Old 11-16-2018, 11:42 PM
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I've had horses for a long time and the worry is still there when I go away. Not that I leave them that often but nothing bad has ever happened to them when they are not under my watch.

I always do as @Dustbunny suggested and inform my vet that I will be gone, whose care they are going to be under, and permission to use his discretion in case of a catastrophic injury (you must have a good,trusting relationship with your vet for this one). If it was a non experienced horse person like hubby's son who was left in charge I also always left him a list of experienced people he could call for general questions or help...I don't carry a cell and this was mostly pre-cell phone days anyway. LOL

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post #8 of 9 Old 11-25-2018, 10:09 AM Thread Starter
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Just returned home and she seems to be in perfectly good shape. Besides having a lot of excess energy due to not being worked all week, she seems very happy and healthy. I am keeping an eye on her for the next day or so to make sure but she seems to be doing very well.
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post #9 of 9 Old 11-25-2018, 11:06 AM
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Yay! Happy to hear it!
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