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post #1 of 9 Old 04-01-2015, 03:31 PM Thread Starter
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My Story, + question

Hi, I am Sarah and 17 years old. I had this account because of my past horse, Sweetie. I attempted to login to this account, and it's still here. So here's my(lame and super long) story. Thank you for anybody who has the time to read this.:

I have always wanted a horse ever since I was little. I collected toy horses, posters, shirts, etc. I was a horsecrazy girl. It wasn't a phase as it stuck to me. I have never taken riding lessons, since they were all far away.
Finally when I was 10 ish, my dad said that we are able to have a horse on our 1 acre property. It took my dad a long time to get the place ready, he takes a long time since he has multiple projects. I was probably 12 by then.
My grandma had a friend who knew a friend who owned a tb breeding farm. The man knew seabiscuit, and he bred tb racehorses for a living. He gave us a free offer on a 12 year old tb broodmare and retired racehorse. Although she was never ridden after that, but she had a "sweet" disposition, but I was dumb and assumed I could train her easy. I jumped at the offer and snatched it immediately. I get really stupid when I wait for so long. I wish I was less nave back then, and reject the offer and wait for a trained riding horse.
Well, we went to the place and saw Sweetie. I was really excited and happy, but I wasn't crying excited. My grandma's friend who recommended the breeder offered to keep Sweetie at his place until our property was ready. The breeder said that we should drive ahead to the place, while they load Sweetie up. Little did we know that Sweetie was a terrible loader. Once she was there, we let here settle down.
I visited Sweetie often and had time to bond with her. She let me brush her while she ate, etc. She wasn't wild, but she had a stubborn attitude sometimes. Although she was friendly, she was headstrong and spirited.
When the time came, we bought a trailer. Then we tried to load her. she would snort really loud and get uncontrollable. She would pull and make a huge mess. We went back home with no horse, and I cried. I want to slap my younger self for getting into this mess.
We payed to get a man to load the horse forcefully into the trailer. It worked, but it made Sweetie even more fearful of the trailer.
Once we had her, I trained her as best as I could, but slowly. She was just too headstrong, and needed a professional trainer. We realized this is not the right horse, and my dad said that we will train her to a certain extent and then sell her. I was able to saddle her, but she HATED the girth. I didn't have a bridle yet, so I didn't have a chance to train her to get used to it. We had her for about 3-4 years. My dad decided that this is it, and we sold her to 2 ladies who would train her to ride gymkhana. I never heard from them again, but at least she wasn't in a slaughterhouse. I was hoping to get another horse after that, but my dad said this is it, and I cried myself to death at the horrible news.
Looking back at this, I wish I could go in time and replace Sweetie with a well-trained rideable horse. I hate my younger self for being so nave, stupid, and impatient.
Now that I am wiser at 16, I decided to take riding lessons. I'm glad I did, but here's my next question. Its separate, as I copy and pasted it from another website:

I have been taking once a week horseback riding lessons for about 7 months now. I am really having fun, and learning fast, and I will have my first show this year. The place I ride at is a big show park with lots of huge arenas, and has lots of shows. Its also about 10-15 mins from my house. The problem is, that I am not pursuing what I really want to do. Of course I am happy that I am at least riding. What I want to do is to ride through trails, fields, and do more fun stuff. I want to ride on a beach one day. Learn to ride bareback. Go and just ride whenever I want to, which would be quite often. My barn has no trails. But however there is another riding place that is a little further, which I was originally going to ride. I was also originally going to take lessons and half-lease a horse there. The place also has trails near the Sac river. Is it possible to ride at 2 different barns? I have a really good instructor at my barn, and I don't want to leave her, but I still want to have free riding time with a quarter/half lease horse.
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... Is it possible to ride at 2 different barns? I have a really good instructor at my barn, and I don't want to leave her, but I still want to have free riding time with a quarter/half lease horse.

Yes.

Additionally, it will improve your riding to be able to practice/ride in between weekly lessons.

Good luck.

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Yes.

Additionally, it will improve your riding to be able to practice/ride in between weekly lessons.

Good luck.
Ok, thanks for the advice
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Hey, don't beat yourself up about being young & naive - IMO it's your parents that should have been responsible enough to bother learning what would be a good or bad choice of horse for you as a young child beginner! And to tell you you could have a horse, allow you to choose a horse that was such a bad idea, sell it & not allow you to get a suitable replacement is really unfair IMO. Although obviously I only have your words - there may be a lot more relevant stuff that would change my perception of the situation.

Of course you can ride at as many different places as your time & wallet allows! Sounds like leasing a horse may be great for you. Trail riding will also teach you a heap of different skills than just riding in an arena too.
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Of course you can ride at as many different places as your time & wallet allows! Sounds like leasing a horse may be great for you. Trail riding will also teach you a heap of different skills than just riding in an arena too.
I agree completely with loosie. The more varied your experiences are the more you learn and the better rider you become. The only thing I might suggest to you is to keep the two situations separate. Stables can sometimes be competitive and the less you say when you are at one place about the other the better off you will be.
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post #6 of 9 Old 04-01-2015, 11:54 PM
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You can ride at multiple places.

Don't get too disheartened about not doing what you want to do though.

The skills you learn in the arena and showing are directly applicable to riding on trails, on the beach etc.
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post #7 of 9 Old 04-02-2015, 03:17 PM
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It really sucks that you had such a bad experience with your first horse, but it wasn't your fault! Your parents were responsible for taking her on and it sounds like they just didn't know better.

You certainly can ride at different barns, in fact it's probably an advantage if you do. There are so many good instructors out there and you can learn something different from each one.

Maybe once you get some experience under your belt you can ask your dad about another horse. Get a job so you can pay for it yourself - that might soften him up a little. If he won't budge, at least you still get to ride.
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do both and have fun !
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post #9 of 9 Old 04-02-2015, 05:17 PM
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Please don't be hard on your younger self. Every year we get older and wiser, but also less passionate about fun things. So praise your younger self for keeping your horse dream alive for your older self. And no matter what, keep learning. Keep getting lessons and keep coming here to READ the posts. You will learn a TON, I promise.
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