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post #1 of 51 Old 11-17-2014, 08:19 PM Thread Starter
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Exclamation In need of desperate help!

hello everyone,
I've been reading this forum site for ages now and have finally decided to register and write my own thread as i can't find anyone with the exact same problem.
So basically after 5 years off from horse riding a new girl at my work had a horse and after seeing hers and riding him a couple times i thought to myself I'm now in a financial and time allowance to be able to get my own horse. I thought about loaning but then i thought i don't want to loan one, fall in love with it and know that it might never really be mine. so i didn't plan on rushing into it but about a month of looking on the internet i bought the second one i went to view. i know sounds crazy! i was always told not to get a TB as they were really fizzy ect. but after viewing her twice and riding her she seemed so calm and lovely and i instantly fell in love with her. We had a few gallops and a couple little jumps and she didn't seemed phased by any of it. So i had a 5 stage vetting and after the all clear i bought her. so to start with every thing was fine.. i had a few problems catching her but i think thats because i was new to her.. but riding wise she was fine.. sometimes a bit fast on hacks but fine it didn't bother me. But now... 10 weeks later shes an utter nightmare to ride!!! I refuse to hack out on her as the last 2 times shes bolted off with me and i just had to get off and walk her back. And in the arena she spooks at NOTHING! She refuses and runs out of jumps and I'm coming off literally every other time i ride her. Shes a nutcase! It has really knocked my confidence to the point where i really don't want to ride her again! Im having lessons and I'm working on my groundwork with her, just doing flat work at the moment and all seems fine but as soon as a little cross pole goes up.. even with trotting poles in front of it shes having none of it. A more experienced girl got on her and she was doing it with her but after telling her off by "showing who's boss" she went over it. But my confidence has been knocked so much that i now get anxious as soon as i get on her. And the worse part is is that i know she can sense it so it makes her even more spooky. She can jump, easily, she just runs out of it with me anyway. But someone thats more confident gets on her and she flies over them (after a couple of tries) and you can tell she enjoys it. But I've fallen off so many times now that I'm literally scared of her! PLEASE HELP! Any advice greatly appreciated! Apart from the riding though shes an absolute dream to own.. she even comes straight up to the gate now as soon as i call her and she will stands for hours for me on the ground. The only thing is the riding but at the end of the day i bought a horse to ride.. not look at!

***forgot to say shes an ex riding school pony, TBx connermara and shes 15. NO HEALTH PROBLEMS just had her checked by vet.
****she got colic first week of having her, even tho we kept her at the same yard with same field ect ect
*****kept at same place she was bought in same stable so she knows her surroundings... theres nothing new there!
******colic vet thinks is due to stress from new owners... only VERY VERY VERY mild..gone in 3 days!
thank you soooo much in advance!xxx
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post #2 of 51 Old 11-17-2014, 08:46 PM
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I think the problem here may be having a little more horse than there is rider. It took me a long time before I would even think of getting on a young tb or a fizzy horse in general for my first 3 years of riding. You said another girl got on the horse and it went over the jump - maybe the horse needs somebody with some more confidence to ride her. From what it sounds you and the horse are a both a nervous wreck when you are riding. I think maybe you need to think about selling and getting a calmer more experienced horse that you can enjoy instead of dreading to even ride and it will be better for the horse also if a rider with some more confidence buys. If selling is not an option I would recommend flat work and ground work only in the arena until you and your horse are more in sync and both of you have calmed down when riding. It sounds like you give her a great home, but if it doesn't work, it doesn't work.
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post #3 of 51 Old 11-17-2014, 08:55 PM
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you could have so much more fun on a horse that has more training and more confidence. I think you made a mistake buying such a young horse, for a re-rider. could you sell her and find a more experienced an quiet mount?
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post #4 of 51 Old 11-17-2014, 09:00 PM
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you could have so much more fun on a horse that has more training and more confidence. I think you made a mistake buying such a young horse, for a re-rider. could you sell her and find a more experienced an quiet mount?
I agree with tiny, however, OP I didn't get from your post that she was young.

If you've made a mistake, have an experienced rider help you sell her and find a better suited horse - you have a current vet check and that might be a help.
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post #5 of 51 Old 11-17-2014, 09:05 PM
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I agree with tiny, however, OP I didn't get from your post that she was young.

If you've made a mistake, have an experienced rider help you sell her and find a better suited horse - you have a current vet check and that might be a help.

you are quite right. the OP says she is 15. I missed that the first time through. sorry.
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post #6 of 51 Old 11-17-2014, 09:18 PM Thread Starter
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shes 15, is that young?

I definitely think its my confidence that is the problem! i forgot to mention that she is already on magic calmer! and it seems to be working a little but not a lot. The main problems i have are hacking out and the jumps. Apart from that shes an angel apart from when she spooks at things (being the fence). Ive been doing quite abit of flat work, riding her into her corners and she seems to be a lot better she doesn't spook 90% of the time at them anymore. The thing is today.. i was having a lesson and one of the flood lights was being changed and the machinery was loud and beeping so i think this may of caused her to spook and me to fall off today? however i still don't know how to gain more confidence?

Do you really all think i should move on to another horse already? even though its only been ten weeks?

thanks guys!
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post #7 of 51 Old 11-17-2014, 09:23 PM
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15 is not young, tiny missed that she was 15, see post above.

I really think you should move on - she has your number and it will only get worse and she will get worse if she is too much horse for you.

You will have a blast on the right horse, there's no need to feel nervous and fall off regularly .
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post #8 of 51 Old 11-17-2014, 09:26 PM Thread Starter
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oh yes! sorry ! i miss read that!

I just don't know, i feel like i would be just giving up?

should i not have a few more lessons and wait to see if things improve?

thank you!:)
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post #9 of 51 Old 11-17-2014, 09:27 PM
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A TB will always be a TB. We have one at our barn who's in his 30's and you can still tell he's a TB when just walking him for his daily turnout..he doesn't get ridden anymore as he's retired, but he's still full of **** and vinegar regardless.

Add to it the fact that you're tense and nervous (which the horse will pickup and feed on) and it seems you've got yourself into a predicament.

Honestly, it sounds like a classic case of too much horse for the rider. I've been there, it's got me in trouble in the past too, although I worked up the confidence to get back on again once I passed the nervous stage, and I've made forward progress, but I know it's not easy.

The fact that she was an ex schoolie is the part the sounds the most off to me. A TB as a schoolie, fine, but only if they're only being used for the highly experienced riders - a beginner on a TB is a recipe for disaster.

Which leads me to my last question..what is YOUR riding skill level? You mention taking 5 years off, and if I go 5 weeks I get rusty, much less 5 months, or 5 years. Assuming you were experienced enough to be riding a TB before your 5 years off, did you at least take some remedial lessons on a DB schoolie beforehand to get back into the groove?

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post #10 of 51 Old 11-17-2014, 09:36 PM
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How long have you, yourself, been riding?

If it is "too much horse" for you, do you have a way to learn how to handle her? Because it likely is that she tested you and you didn't notice then it just got worse.

Have you fallen off of her? Or is it just the refusing/potential bolting, etc. that's scaring you?
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